Another thing misunderstood about love is avaliabilty. You don't want to be the girl that hangs off the guy, asking for his number ten minutes after meeting him. But you also don't want to be the girl that only replies once a day. You have to be avaliable at the same time as being unavaliable.
When I was with Carl I had a system going. I would text him first, always, letting him know I was avaliable. If he replied right away I would too. If it took him more than an hour to reply, I wouldn't. That let him know that the moment had passed. It also said that I had a life, that I couldn't reply to him ASAP, even if all I did was stare at the phone.
I would never ask a guy out. I don't know why women think that they can. That is weird. If a man is too shy to ask you, then he is not worth it. He will be too shy to ask to marry you. He will be to shy to tell you he hates the name Gwenderth and he doesn't want to torture his kid by naming her that. A woman needs a man to be able to take charge and help her realize her own stupidity. You don't want to be constantly in charge, it gets tiring.
Carl would be the one to ask me out. I would never give a straight out yes or no. For example:
Carl: Wanna go out tonight?
Me: Depends, what do you have in mind
Carl:...
If he doesn't have a reply right away, don't bother going over to his house. It will result in him playing video games while you sit on your phone, completely bored. It's a waste of time. However, if he does reply, you have to know which response he wants.
Example
Carl: I want to do whatever you want to do
Me: I want to do what you want to do
Carl: Well that would be what you want to do
Me: Okay, well I really want to go see __(movie)___ and I heard __(restraunt)___ serves really good ___(food)___
Carl: ok, am i meeting you there or picking you up
Whenever a guy asks for an option, he will put the option he wants to do first, then he will put the option he knows you'll want last. Choose wisely, if your a catch for him, show him who's boss. If he is way outta your league, you better find your MetroCard.
Now you know that awkard moment when you are wearing a dress to a date, whilst he is in basketball shorts and a sweatshirt, there is a way to prevent that. It is called; being blunt.
Example
Me: What should I wear????
Carl: Whatever you feel like ig
Now, depending on what you want to wear. (Me, myself, and I would prefer the shorts catagory) You add the ending accordingly.
Me: Are you going to wear that ___(color of shirt)____ or those ___(brand of athletic clothes___) I bought you? I have a dress that totally works with your (Nice shirt)
or
Me: Are you going to wear that ___(color of shirt)____ or those ___(brand of athletic clothes___) I bought you? Because the it's going to be a long night and I want you to be comfortable.
Now how do you dress to your tens when he is wearing basketball shorts on your date. It's simple. Yogas, sweatshirt, Uggs, hair in messy bun, and makeup on.
Love
--A
