Learn to Say "No"

How to say "No" to your Peers?

Our first question is, How do we say "No" to our peers?

This question tends to relate to a lot of young adults nowadays. We are often lost; this is the age wherein we are in a constant search of our own identity as a person and there are times wherein, we try to fit in with other people just so that we can feel that that we are accepted.

Sometimes, if we are weak and sensitive, we tend to please everyone. We compare ourselves to them and feel isolated if we don't give in to their desires or expectations. We say "Yes" not because we find it appropriate but because we do not want to be different.

I know that it's hard because to be honest with you, I know what it feels like. The feeling of fear crippling to your skin, the thought of your friends leaving you just because you don't click with them or you can't relate to them. But let me tell you that it's alright, it's just normal for us to experience these kinds of things because it's part of growing up. It's alright to not fit in sometimes; it's alright to be just you because that's what makes you who you are. 

If you don't like your peer's prepositions, say "No." If you don't want to do that kinds of stuff, say "No." If you don't want to drink that, say "No." I know that it's going to be hard and that you're probably scared, it's not really that easy but don't be afraid, always remember that the right person will accept you for who you are and will not pressure you to do things you don't want to do.

We should maintain our own identity, our values, and aspirations. We should take our own stand of the issues and circumstances. We should be strong and self-reliant because at the end of the day, there will be no regrets because you know in your heart that you made the right decision to say "No."