A Guide To Having A Boyfriend

PART ONE: FIGHTS AND ARGUMENTS

What do you do when you get into an argument with your boyfriend? 

Step one: Read a good book for at least ten minutes. Yes, this sounds a little strange, but reading for just ten minutes can reduce someone's stress by up to 60%. Once your head is clear, proceed into step two.

Step two: Gage the severity of the argument. Was it just a small disagreement that you can forgive and forget? Was it something stressful, that you are still irritated about? Or, was it something that you want to break up with them over. Did he insult you in your argument? Did you insult him? Was it something worth fighting over? Gage it on a one to ten scale. One being you just shrugging it off and forgetting about it, two being you mildly irritated, but after a little while forgiving, three being you might yell, but you can still get over it, four being yelling, maybe shedding a few tears, and needing to talk it out, moving on after a while, five being you cry a fair amount, yell a little more, six, you have trouble getting over it, cry, yell. Seven: scream and cry, have a lot of difficulty moving on, maybe shut yourself in your room. Eight is you cry and yell and consider breaking up, nine, yelling and crying, insulting, and seriously considering breaking up. Ten: the absolute worst you've ever felt, and you are going to break up.

Step Three: If it was a one, two, or three argument, you do not need to read any longer. move on, have fun. If it was was a four or a five or six, talk to your parent or guardian, and have a talk about your feelings with your boyfriend. Remember in the talk to try not to yell, and use I statements, such as "I feel this way" or "I think" not "This is what happened" or "you are a bad person" Never try to insult him on purpose. If he is not listening, or won't accept what you're saying, then you can have your parent/guardian mediate the discussion. Don't try to deal with these problems on your own.  Always try to go to an adult you trust.  If you gage it at a seven or an eight, do lots of activities that make you happy, such as reading, or watching movies. Once you are feeling better, talk to a trusted adult. If you feel ready, talk to your boyfriend. If you are considering breaking up with him, think about the pros and cons of doing it.  Nine or a Ten? I really can't answer that one for you. That severity of a situation is something that really goes by the scenario. My advice is to talk to a trusted friend or adult and ask them. 

If you have any questions, feel free to ask in the comments!