Okay quick reflection: Can I say that saying "assuming someone's sexuality" is seen as rude just because the only case where people differ from the straight categorizing of somebody is to assume they're queer? just because it's based off a common generalized societial homophobia?
It's a double standard, because the biggest part of people just assumes everyone's straight , but it's not seen as offensive to queer people because it's a minority. The second it's reversed, they say it's weird.
Another thing I thought about recently, is the different "types" of queer people.
Like, don't even know if it makes sense, but there are queer people for straight people, and queer people for queer people, the same ways there are gay movies for straight people and so on. I perceived it like this, and it's not by any means a way of saying one of the two is more valid than the other.
I'm not judging anybody at all, but I just noticed this recently when me, my bisexual friend (in a relationship with a girl) and two straight girls from my class had a convo.
My friend told them all about how she met her girlfriend, and just by the way they responded to her (mind you, my friend is a very "straight passing" bi, and is very much out of gay medias), I kind of felt like they wouldn't have reacted the same if I (or her) would have decided to talk about more "uncomfortable" sides of being gay. Like they would only be interested of the more "performative" or easy parts.
I didn't mention that I'm bi to them, but it's because I don't think people have to know the second they meet me. They usually just find out in other casual ways. This time tho, it was because I kind of felt out of the vibe. I think like I said, I'm a more "unconventional" type of bi, someone straight people would stereotype as "oh she's a lesbian."
This wasn't in any form a way to criticize my friend or anything, it was just something I thought and don't know if it makes sense, but let me know what you think.