Everything, little OR big, that has happened before you & while you were born was so that you could be exactly how you are today. If you make a wrong turn, God planned for you to and something good will come out of it eventually, whether you realize it or not. He's been planning your existence & every thought since he made the world. There best question in the world is one that we were provided an answer to: What would Jesus do? What would Jesus do..if he thought he was ugly, useless, pathetic, & that no one would ever truly love him as he is? What would Jesus do..if everything seemed to fall apart around him and everyone despised him?What would Jesus do..if his friends left him?He answer is ALWAYS the same..& it's the best answer you could EVER ask for.
He would LOVE First.
He would love himself because he was made by God & as a Christian having anything God has made is against us because that means we think he messed up. & if we think that somehow he messed up on US, on YOU or ME, then we don't give him the faith he deserves. SO, we should love ourselves, because we have Jesus on our side and had makes us better than everybody else..so my bible study teacher said when he shouted it at other kids with us.
Jesus would love everyone who hated him or left him because he realizes that it was NEVER his fault that they were going through things that kept them from him, & he knows that they're going through some things that have nothing to do with their feelings for him but that no matter what he should love them through their hard times whether they want it or not.