600000helena

Hey guys! I feel silly for this but I could really use your wisdom:
          	So basically, my husband has a friend who's younger than him by a few years and that friend became almost like a family to us. Recently he got married and naturally, we were invited to the engagement party and the wedding. On those occasions, I've come to meet and know his cousin, who's the same age as him and was engaged herself. We became fast friends and she ended up inviting me to her wedding while I invited her and her future husband to come over for Shabbat when they'll want. I was very excited to make a new friend, something I've felt never really happened to me before but it didn't last. When I told our family friend his cousin invited me to her wedding, his expression fell. I knew that they used to be really close... So close that their parents were afraid they might fall in love with each other and ended up separating them. He ended up hinting at me that his cousin's intentions of becoming friends with me was simply so she could get more involved in his life because she's "Obssessed with him". In my honest opinion, I think his family's ideas got into his head too much and he's scared his new wife will get the wrong idea. I myself don't know her well enough and now I'm scared I'm being used but I don't want to think this way because I'm geniunely interested in forming a friendship with her! My husband suggested to maybe take his friend's words to consideration because my husband is scared of either of us (The friend and I) getting hurt if that was what the cousin was trying to do. What do you think I should do? If you need more details to help with the advice, I'll try to provide!

600000helena

@totallynotivy03 Thanks for you advice. I do have an update: So I ended up not going to the wedding and it honestly made me upset. And things took turn to crazy town: For starters, the friend and his wife are getting a divorce. My husband and I have also been considering cutting ties with that friend and the reason is simple: We've been talking to a few people and found that over the years, many things he told us were straight up lies that he dims the only truth. Now I will admit while not going into details that he HAS gone through something that changed him as a person and his mind has been fighting it by making him change the story in a way that makes him look like a tourtured saint. He even made his wife and parents believe some of these. I know it's unfair to leave him like this considering things he has gone through but he refuses help in any shape or form and it doesn't excuse some of the sh**ty things he had done. Now he's trying to make us cut contact with his ex wife who became a good friend of mine as well and I'm honestly sick of becoming friends with people and forced to cut it off because of him. Among other things his lies indirectly affected my husband's and my life horribly not just in friendships and we decided that for our sake and our daughter's sake, we need to teach her that there's no shame in cutting ties with people who make your life miserable, directly or not. I've told the cousin of his the truth and she in exchange told me that she NEVER had a crush on him, that HE was the one who apporached her about being good cousins, came to her for an advice and suddenly stopped talking to her. And knowing what I know now, I tend to 100% believe her. She and her husband will be coming to visit us soon and I intend on starting a good friendship (With the ex wife too), and not let anyone dictate it but myself.
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totallynotivy03

HONESTLY, do what you do go to the wedding and even if she is stalking him or what it’s not your problem girl! You don’t have to worry it’s a good time for you to be making a friend and if she was honestly using u then…. it happened!
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600000helena

Hey guys! I feel silly for this but I could really use your wisdom:
          So basically, my husband has a friend who's younger than him by a few years and that friend became almost like a family to us. Recently he got married and naturally, we were invited to the engagement party and the wedding. On those occasions, I've come to meet and know his cousin, who's the same age as him and was engaged herself. We became fast friends and she ended up inviting me to her wedding while I invited her and her future husband to come over for Shabbat when they'll want. I was very excited to make a new friend, something I've felt never really happened to me before but it didn't last. When I told our family friend his cousin invited me to her wedding, his expression fell. I knew that they used to be really close... So close that their parents were afraid they might fall in love with each other and ended up separating them. He ended up hinting at me that his cousin's intentions of becoming friends with me was simply so she could get more involved in his life because she's "Obssessed with him". In my honest opinion, I think his family's ideas got into his head too much and he's scared his new wife will get the wrong idea. I myself don't know her well enough and now I'm scared I'm being used but I don't want to think this way because I'm geniunely interested in forming a friendship with her! My husband suggested to maybe take his friend's words to consideration because my husband is scared of either of us (The friend and I) getting hurt if that was what the cousin was trying to do. What do you think I should do? If you need more details to help with the advice, I'll try to provide!

600000helena

@totallynotivy03 Thanks for you advice. I do have an update: So I ended up not going to the wedding and it honestly made me upset. And things took turn to crazy town: For starters, the friend and his wife are getting a divorce. My husband and I have also been considering cutting ties with that friend and the reason is simple: We've been talking to a few people and found that over the years, many things he told us were straight up lies that he dims the only truth. Now I will admit while not going into details that he HAS gone through something that changed him as a person and his mind has been fighting it by making him change the story in a way that makes him look like a tourtured saint. He even made his wife and parents believe some of these. I know it's unfair to leave him like this considering things he has gone through but he refuses help in any shape or form and it doesn't excuse some of the sh**ty things he had done. Now he's trying to make us cut contact with his ex wife who became a good friend of mine as well and I'm honestly sick of becoming friends with people and forced to cut it off because of him. Among other things his lies indirectly affected my husband's and my life horribly not just in friendships and we decided that for our sake and our daughter's sake, we need to teach her that there's no shame in cutting ties with people who make your life miserable, directly or not. I've told the cousin of his the truth and she in exchange told me that she NEVER had a crush on him, that HE was the one who apporached her about being good cousins, came to her for an advice and suddenly stopped talking to her. And knowing what I know now, I tend to 100% believe her. She and her husband will be coming to visit us soon and I intend on starting a good friendship (With the ex wife too), and not let anyone dictate it but myself.
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totallynotivy03

HONESTLY, do what you do go to the wedding and even if she is stalking him or what it’s not your problem girl! You don’t have to worry it’s a good time for you to be making a friend and if she was honestly using u then…. it happened!
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savannam87

Hello, sorry to bother you but I was wondering if the mk1 story will be updated soon? If not that is okay. Hope you have a wonderful day

savannam87

@savannam87 thank you!
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600000helena

@savannam87 Hi, it's okay! I'm glad you're interested in the story. I'm working on a chapter at the moment. Hopefully it'll be updated in the upcoming days :)
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600000helena

I BECAME A MOM!
          Heya guys!
          So you're probably wondering: What's up? Where are you? Where are the updates?
          So the reason I've not been active is because my day to day has become overactive.
          About two months ago I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl; Adele!
          And yeah, whenever I'm not on mommy duty, I'm trying to catch up on sleep.
          Hopefully in the future there'll be updates but I just wanted you guys to know that I didn't forget you and I'm working on it any chance I get!
          Love ya! Wish me luck!

Jojje09

congratulations ❤️
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600000helena

@ jam2000s  Hi! Thank you so much. I can assure you my stories are here to stay. I've come so far with them and I'd like to have newcomers who also love the fandoms I'm writing about to have another story to enjoy!
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melodixe

Congrats
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