There should always be a conversation between partners BEFORE you decide to practice ANYTHING in the BDSM world, and people not understanding this is why it gets labeled as abuse!! There HAS to be safe words, there HAS to be a discussion of hard limits. If you’re going to have rules you HAVE to discuss them beforehand. BDSM is a power exchange, not a dictatorship.
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