Apollos1Sunbeam

@Apollos1Sunbeam yeah of course!

@NoNameCarmenSandiego Okay, thank you so much doll! It means a lot that you're willing to help me out!

@Apollos1Sunbeam 
            It honestly sounds like your friend isn’t ready to have both relationships at the same time 
            Why is the boyfriend so involved is it her pushing home to be in it or is he not wanting her to be with people without him either way it’s not healthy 
            You don’t have to be friends with the boyfriend personally I wouldn’t 
            You have to know when to lower you expectations and it sounds like you already did that but just lower it a little more you should know that whatever boy comes along your gonna come 2nd or even 3rd to at least in this stage of y’all’s life
            Yall are also young so chances are the boyfriend isn’t gonna last 
            Your friend can make a gc but it doesn’t mean you have to respond to just put it on silent

@Apollos1Sunbeam I'm glad your birthday has been fun!!! 
            
            If you have already had a convo with her, then there really isn't anything more you can do. You deserve people who don't see you as the backup friend. Now, yes, not everyone is going to be your best friend or even your friend, and that's ok. Nobody is going to like everyone, and not everyone is going to like you. That is just how the world works, and that's okay. But you will find at least one-two people who will welcome you first, and I can't wait till you do. When you realize that and put realistic expectations on people, you will find yourself getting hurt less.
            
            Love you, and I am always here to talk whenever you need.

@NoNameCarmenSandiego Thank you doll! This was a really beneficial conversation that really opened my eyes. I know that we have done 1 there and it didn't really turn out well, and currently 2 has been happening, but then something will come up, that she can't tell her boyfriend so she will tell me because she has no where else to go. The sad part is, I'm starting to realize how much I play the "backup friend" role, and not just with her but with majority of my 'friends'. I've had multitudes of breakdowns over this matter, but having an outside opinion is helping me really solidify the belief that I deserve better than what I've been dealt.
            
            I'm happy to hear about your show, I'm sure you were amazing, and I am sooo happy that you had fun!
            
            So far my birthday has been great, minus quite a few things that I'm deciding to not give power to today, but it has been fun! 
            Thank ya Doll! ❣❤

@Apollos1Sunbeam I am going to start by saying my show went great, and I had an amazing time doing it. It went really well!!!!!
            
            I don't think you're overreacting. I think your definition of friendship is different than hers. For example, one of my sisters' ex-friends was talking badly about her behind her back. One of the girls who was in that group was my sister's longest-time friend. That friend said nothing, but when someone said something bad about that friend to my sister, my sister shut it down. It wasn't that the friend was cruel or mean; it was just that she had a different definition of friendship than my sister.  It is completely normal to want to spend time with your friend, especially your best friend, without the boyfriend around. There are a 2 ways that you could go about it that I think might help.
            1. You have a sit-down convo with your friend and explain your perspective.
            2. You could lower contact; a lot of times, this leads to you seeing what becomes of the friendship once you stop putting the effort in. If your friend puts effort into seeing what happend what changed, then you match that energy if she doesn't match her energy as well.
            
            I would try to do 1 first and then 2 if needed, but oftentimes it is more helpful to just do 2. As sad as it is to lose or lower contact with a friend, in this case, I think it would be the most beneficial to you and your mental health. At some point or another, you can not continue to give without harming yourself in some way shap or form. I think it is time for you to put yourself first and see what happens. If the friends end, then maybe it was never a friendship and more of a "you're the backup friend"situation.

@Bias_lil_Sister Ofc, love! It will be up soon!

@Apollos1Sunbeam Yes, please!

@PaygeRuple Aww, thank you so much, my love. I love being able to care for people who need to be cared for, you being one is an added bonus, gorgeous. Im so grateful to be here, and able to talk to you as well, in 2026, nonetheless, as these last few months have been something, but we are here and that counts for so much. I truly hope you know that you are loved and appreciated and thought of by so many. Love you forever, doll! ❣️❤️❣️❤️

Aww thank you!!! It means a lot to me that you care especially since my family doesn't know about any of this. You are such a wonderful, kind, and caring person. You are worth so so so much and I hope you never forget that.I am so happy that you made it into 2026 with me and the rest of us! I will forever care and love you sweetie and I hope you never forget that you are loved and cared for by many!

@PaygeRuple Hi lovely! Its been such a long time, its great to hear from you! I'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa. I am so, so, so very proud of you, staying clean throughout this grieving time is always difficult, but look at you, your defying the odds, and showing that you are so perfectly capable, and that you are so much stronger than what the world throws at you.
            
             I love you so very much, you are such a wonderful, amazing, and kind person. You are worth so much, so much that you dont even realize it yet. 
            
            Please always remember that healing, is still healing no matter how bumpy, chaotic or difficult it is. Your journey matters, and I will love you and be forever proud no matter what happens. Please know, your story isnt over yet, each chapter of your life may have an end, but its not the end of the book, just a clean start to keep writing.
            
            You did it my love, you made it to 2026, what an exciting thing! I will forever love you doll, you're amazing. ❣️❤️❣️❤️

That makes my day! I’m so happy you’re enjoying it! 

@CamiSweetness You're welcome! It was an absolutely great read! I loved it so much!

@alternfae you're so welcome, it is the least I could do! Love you darling, and you're sweeter!

@Apollos1Sunbeam THANK YOU <333 so sweet :)