@2424gnr of course! How it is for me is that I only feel attraction after I've known someone for long enough and felt close to them. How its defined is attraction only after an emotional bond. For example, I can't look at someone and be like "oh they are cute" or "oh I wish I could be in a relationship with them". Usually it takes me around 8/9 months personally but it varies for each person. If you need anymore clarification just let me know, and I don't believe its rude at all. I actually quite appreciate that you asked about it