AshleyMistMalichi

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          	the silent struggle of living in functional freeze response 
          	
          	when living in a functional freeze, you might look together & calm on the outside, but on the inside you’re shutdown, overwhelmed & disconnected 
          	
          	this hidden state is a sneaky survival mechanism, where you operate on autopilot amidst overwhelming stress or years of unresolved trauma ‍
          	
          	it isn’t your fault! your nervous system starts to shutdown & move into the functional freeze response to protect you from experiencing more stress / trauma 
          	
          	functional freeze will often cause you to be able to perform at work & with your family but then not be able to take care of yourself 
          	
          	you might be in a functional freeze if you’re experiencing:
          	✨ a sense of detachment or numbness
          	✨ feeling stuck in life like you’re just going through the motions
          	✨ shallow breathing or holding your breath often
          	✨ difficulty making decisions or feeling indecisive
          	✨ a lack of motivation or feeling aimless
          	✨ a general sense of apathy towards things you used to enjoy
          	✨ muscle stiffness or chronic pain
          	✨ feeling on edge but not knowing why
          	✨ difficulty getting out of bed
          	✨ body feels heavy
          	the good news is you can get out of living in your functional freeze response with somatic exercises 

-JustCMe-

My Lady, wishing you a happy and very prosperous new year.  I haven’t seen any activity from you for a while, my wish is that all is well with you and yours. 

AshleyMistMalichi

@-JustCMe- 
            Hi Cee.
            Hope you had nice end of the year Holidays...
            No, you are correct.
            There were a LOT of things happening in my Life at that time; and in October, I just fell into a deep shock; and the residual of it has yet to leave my person...
            In July, when I went to visit my youngest and her hubs for the Holiday, I had felt SO FREE! I had written a LOT on my latest 2 Books too, AHFH and NOLY...
            My 2 1D Ships had sunken in October. Ziam and Larry...
            After October, this writers FOG was still with me. I tried my best to 'fake it' but even then, things just, sucked.
            I stayed away from watty; and my emails. I had to (and still do) have to FORCE myself to even answer them.
            Those 2 devil WATER hurricanes; and the most recent Cali. devil winds, have me in pure disbelief. I've seen videos with pure PROOF, a lot of that crap that's gone down, was MANMADE POLITICAL BS. I weep for our Species, our planet and our *current*raggy Country and our individual states.
            Stay safe Chingu.
            T.
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-JustCMe-

Merry Christmas my Lady!

AshleyMistMalichi

@-JustCMe- 
            Hope yours was all Merry too!
            Hope you are okay as well...
            Let me know, are you still at where you used to be, with just your pet?
            Or, did you get talked into moving back to the state, in its current state, due to being run by 'gruesome?' 
            Who has PROVEN OVER and OVER to be, "The WORST Governor, EVER, in the HISTORY of the USA!" 
            Either way, 
            stay safe My Gentleman Chingu Cee.
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-JustCMe-

My lady, hope all is well with you…  ≽^• ˕ • ྀི≼

AshleyMistMalichi

@-JustCMe- 
            My Gentleman Cee, all is VERY well with me! 
            LOVE the kitty Ceemoji, Thank You Chingu!
            
            Now that I am away from the constant causes of my Functional Freezes; and the responses it all lead to, I am doing SO much better!
            
            Been taking the necessary time to re up my work Callers list too; 
            and have not been disappointed at all.
            I even had them returning from 2020!
            
            It didn't take a day to build it all; and it took almost 4 years of crazy hours, and LONG days and nights to do so. 
            So, I did NOT expect it so soon, to come rolling back to me!
            YOU were right on SO many levels, about SO many things too!
            I Thank you for your well wishes, hopes and encouragements to get back to ALL of it.
            So, in making the efforts by showing up. 
            Working more, writing more as I do...
            I am soon dropping a new Chapter of NOLY, and that is exciting, as I found the perfect bridge from AHFH and a 180* plot twist to bring to NOLY as well!
            
            Don't you just LOVE it, when things just seem to seam themselves together?!
            
            Never mind the hyper enthusiasm, and please excuse it, as I am drinking cups of real Dark Chocolate cocoa to stay awake, as LAST night was full and LOADED with like, OMG O.O  STRESS!
            Those, OMG moments NEVER seemed to stop!
            Just gotta add, Hurricanes are SO REAL; and so is God.
            We were blessed to be in safety; and the electric miraculously stayed on, as did our entire area as it was shockingly missed.
            There were those that were not so fortunate though. 
            And prayers for those people and their families who last night, and early AM, lost so much, and so rapidly.
            Powerlines were downed; as were elder trees uprooted & a vast amount of homes and other structures were severely damaged, as well as the flood levels soon became highly damaging to homes; businesses, leaving in Tampa, those first alert rescuer's needing rescued first. 
            Somehow this storm had been even worse than the last one had been.
            I must humbly add, blessed has been my mental, go to key word since August 25...
            <3   
            T
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Egaroo4

Thanks for the dedication on chapter 12 of AHFH, T.  I feel bad because I've just been so busy trying to write to read anything. <3<T

AshleyMistMalichi

@Egaroo4 Hello my lovely E! 
            It is okay. 
            You don't have to feel bad; M' SO happy to read you are back to writin' on your own works. 
            I already told you, I actually wrote, AHFH for you, which is WHY it is ONLY dedicated, to you. 
            I also wrote it, to bring awareness to the issues & outcomes of SO many things; like being a single parent; the challenges it brings; only from a Males POV AND a Females POV. 
            There are pieces of my heart in both books & shards of my own life experiences but again, it's challenging to write them from a M POV. 
            While both Books touch on the different topics covered, it's the seriousness of them are exposed; such as description's of H trafficking as it's not just going on here in these discombobulated States; but the world over, C H trafficking has become a huge form of currency; a way for the bad people of this world to make money off of others skin, sadness; blood; suffering. 
            Be that with the use of drugs * like with Summer in AHFH* or H T or C H T & WE NEED people like Kingston & Bastien, who fight every day for those being used & trafficked. Also, I wrote N O L Y as well as A H F H to help escape & deal with my own issues of a current life sitch. 
            Now that I know about *Functional Freeze Response* the knowledge helps me cope with any outcome of those MANY * years & places prior to 2016 + the consecutive coming to FL years I've been slowly suffocating, by being mentally emotionally & physically used as Narcci food. 
            Due to that mess, now I'm made more aware of those residual dregs that were ignored. 
            With proper knowledge, I AM standing up to it. There have been some better outcomes, than my usual 'go to's' of just running from or ignoring it. 
            I AM actually working on a research paper to learn more about, FFR. 
            Mulling about the Idea from my Son I L how I should start a podcast about *issues Interests & Hobbies (like my BGof Larry, 'cause I know stuff) Just livin' life Luv...N' gettin' there me own way. ;)
            T>
            <3
            E>
            :)
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AshleyMistMalichi

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          the silent struggle of living in functional freeze response 
          
          when living in a functional freeze, you might look together & calm on the outside, but on the inside you’re shutdown, overwhelmed & disconnected 
          
          this hidden state is a sneaky survival mechanism, where you operate on autopilot amidst overwhelming stress or years of unresolved trauma ‍
          
          it isn’t your fault! your nervous system starts to shutdown & move into the functional freeze response to protect you from experiencing more stress / trauma 
          
          functional freeze will often cause you to be able to perform at work & with your family but then not be able to take care of yourself 
          
          you might be in a functional freeze if you’re experiencing:
          ✨ a sense of detachment or numbness
          ✨ feeling stuck in life like you’re just going through the motions
          ✨ shallow breathing or holding your breath often
          ✨ difficulty making decisions or feeling indecisive
          ✨ a lack of motivation or feeling aimless
          ✨ a general sense of apathy towards things you used to enjoy
          ✨ muscle stiffness or chronic pain
          ✨ feeling on edge but not knowing why
          ✨ difficulty getting out of bed
          ✨ body feels heavy
          the good news is you can get out of living in your functional freeze response with somatic exercises 

AshleyMistMalichi

Aww, how CUTE! O.O Color me surprised! 
          When I actually got a grey Banner, so one of my Stories is now deemed 'eligible' for a submission in the 2024 Watty's.
          MY reply..."In the words of the Master Minded and lovable Louis? "Ah, Erm, I feel...Fanks, but NO Fanks Mate."
          LOL, JUST reading a FULL page with ALL of those uncomfortable RULES n REGS? 
          I felt a MASSIVE Panic Attack trying to be coming on!
          For those of you still reading ANY of my works; especially my MANY TBC Fic's?
          I would sincerely like to, Thank You & let you know, how much I appreciate you ALL, SO very much with being SO patience with me, 
          when my S A D kicks up & makes me feel, all... the FEAR to do so; & after second guessing myself? 
          I end up NOT having a prepared one; a lack of any update, as well as feeling guilty for the length of time.
          Between my Panic Attacks, my PTSD issues, as well as the ongoing, current negative fam ones? 
          One day, I told myself? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! 
          I decided to do some deep dive research, on what could possibly be the root or underlying causes, stemming from my rapidly, daily declining, sense of self & loss of Autonomy. 
          Which is what's causing these negative feelings...It took a while, 
          but one day last week, 
          I FINALLY pinpointed a HUGE chunk of the problem; the situation, and the possibility; THAT THIS, is what has been keeping me in a, Freeze of emotions and other things that make a person, unique in who they are. 
          But, when you are constantly being gaslit, then LIED to, to YOUR FACE? 
          How can YOU NOT realize it? 
          I am & have been locked down into, a 'Functional Freeze'...Since July 2017. 
          You just eventually, shut down.   
          Let us just say, in an Alanis Morsette tune, in which I have added some mixed up words to...
           "I got one hand in my pocket and the other one is gripping a tight rope."
          IF you, or someone you know, is NOT acting like themselves? IT could be, FF.
          this is the You Tube 4 it> https://youtube.com/shorts/eFwGkvP5emo?si=BwUE4mQ5Avlmczwe

AshleyMistMalichi

As a Writer?
          The MOST uncomfortable thing to discover?
          When, 'supposedly' your 'ranking' is what it is shown as.
          However? 
          When you discover it is not?
          THAT is soul crushingly embarrassing. 
          :(
          Maybe one day, the numbers shown will be the numbers my works deserved, not just some lame AI Program, faking them.
          And?  IF that is the real reason we all lost our PM/DM options?
          Weak. Sauce. Man.
          Hit me back, IF any of you, have also experienced this BS.

AshleyMistMalichi

Yeah E. It sucks BALLS man.
            Not always is it faked though, as I have before in my other works, have looked up each and every tag, just to find out.
            The newest ones though, have more faked rankings than do the older works.
            :(
            But then I stop and remember how almost ALL of my works were up and ranking WAY earlier than others with even a more completed story menu than mine.
            It is just SO confusing E. 
            I mean, what is the purpose to it all, when THey show one think, but the actual TRUE ranking is off by miles!?
            I am just happy to be able to showcase my works, I just wish there wasn't such a soul shattering and HIGHLY embarrassing 'catch' to it all.
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Egaroo4

@AshleyMistMalichi 
            So the ranking that you see isn't the ranking that a story is. I didn't know that and that very much sucks. 
            ):
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AshleyMistMalichi

There is Today, and, there is, Tomorrow...
          
          Only two days left of June, PRIDE Month. 
          
          I hope yours went well; and that you started each day, with a lovely smile, an open heart and open mind.
          I hope you learned many new things about yourself; and many new things about others too.
          I hope you listened to Harry, and remembered to, "Treat People With Kindness." 'TPWK'
          And that no matter your personal representation on the PRIDE FLAG? 
          You remembered first and always...
          We are ALL of the same in that we are ALL members of ONE RACE...
          The Human Race. 
          Everything else? 
          Is a Nationality...YOUR Nationality. 
          The more you LEARN of where YOU came from?
          The MORE you will appreciate, WHO you are. 
          
          Where you've been, and WHERE you are going in your Life, is 100% your CHOICE.
          Everything else is the way YOU were meant to be...The way you were Born.
          'Cause God makes no mistakes. 
          Don't let anyone tell ya different.
          I hope this month, you've realized, 
          Your LIFE? 
          It is a Gift. 
          And SO are YOU.
          I hope your JULY, will be, JUST as awesome, too!
          And, no matter where you are in the world,
          I pray for your safety.
          <3
          AMM

AshleyMistMalichi

Hi E!
            Well, I was surprised. 
            I REALLY liked the chicken curry. :) 
            My Son In Law, made homemade Chicken Stew; we ate off that for two meals; then the next night, we had NY Styled Pizza, Wings, and a Caesar salad for our Supper. We also went to their favorite Mexican Food place, and I had a Chimichanga meal! DeadPool would be SO Proud! Heart eyes an all! 
            The day of our trip back on Sunday, to the drop off point, for Lunch we had Mediterranean food. 
            *Anyone else reading this8 that is a Larry Stylinson fan, knows where I am going with this NEXT part :) 
            So it was some, Chicken, wrapped in Pita bread, covered in Feta cheese 
            with a side of lettuce and Roma Tomatoes, *gutted, no seeds or rind*  
            Had a fruit drink *with REAL Peach pieces* to go with it, and a tiny cuppa of Indian Tea. 
            To put it nicely? 
            I was just spoiled, a lot :)  
            
            Didn't have to use the Fed-x or any postal options, as I was feeling like I struck I GOLD!
            lol, when I found some clothing I had forgotten I'd already washed dried and put in the big PANRA Catering bag lol. 
            I made it work, and saved my daughters a lot of money :)
            On the 7th, a Sunday, been Re-acclimating from the SC visit with my youngest and my Son In Law. 
            I had SUCH a wonderful visit!
            Good food, fun stuff, great company too! 
            Got to see my Grand pets as well!
            Sherman and Bradley, my Grand kitties; then Matilda, my Grand Turtle; and the newest addition, Abbot, my Grand Snake. 
            He is a baby corn snake, the color of Strawberries, with the cutest lil' red eyes! He's also now an ounce BIG! 
            And, it was fun to binge watch Season 1 and half of season 2, of NETFLIX'S 'Love Is Blind.'
            I wrote on, No ONE Like YOU, by hand. 
            Got some pages ready now for transfer to the Book. 
            And, wrote more for A Home For Hunter too. 
            This week and weekend, I will be readying them for transfer to the Book as well.
            It was really nice and relaxing, no disturbances, just relaxation when I wanted to write. 
            How have YOU been my chingu E?
            Hugs, 
            T
            <3
            E>
            <3
            :)
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Egaroo4

Your welcome T
            Hugs to you to my chingu :-)
            
            I'm so happy your with your girls. I hope you have a fantastic time. It sounds like you will do. 
            I'm a bit of a scatter brain as well. Lol I hope you get your luggage ok.
            You've never had curry. I hope you enjoyed it. I like any type of curry as long as it's not too hot. 
            Anyhoo, glad you're doing ok.
            Have a lot of fun where you are.
            Lots of love and hugs 
            E
            <3<T
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AshleyMistMalichi

@Egaroo4 
            oh and tomorrow, they are gonna check an see, how much it is to Fed X, or USPS it? An if it isn't a lot, then they will send to me, the other half of my luggage.
            If it is too expensive though, I told em not to do it.
            
            If not, my youngest said, "I'm taking you shopping at ROSS, I need to get some stuff anyway." 
            I was just SO excited for my trip, I completely forgot my other luggage, was in the hatch back part of my oldest daughters vehicle. 
            O.O 
            Anyhoo, I'm currently nibbling on snacks and curry. I've never had curry before, it is actually pretty good :)
            I heard from Cee, too, and Bunny sent out a notification...
            K dropped a new Larry; and I'd say, we've all been pretty busy too.
            Huggles E!
            T.
            :)
            E> 
            <3
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AshleyMistMalichi

HAPPY DAY 11 OF PRIDE MONTH EVERYONE!
          annnd?
          For those of you possibly still reading it? 
          Especially any of you newbies to the Fandom OF it? TODAY, I'm updating my (what I call it) Larry Stylinson Bunny Book! 
          It is pretty easy to find & is the only Book dedicated to the Good Ship Larry; the WORLDWIDE STRONG BlueGreen Ship of Larry Stylinson & the 1 D Fandom too.
          13 YEARS and counting! 
          Most of you already know, I've only been a Fan since the late night evening of December 13, 2019 & became a Card carrying member of One Direction; AND a member of the: FBI, BLUEGREENER'S, aka Larry Stylinson supporter too!
          TODAY!? I work up to a BEAUTIFUL ONE< despite the Weather...
          ☕The TEA is piping hot! 
          IF you haven't seen it yet? 
          NEW news we at the FANDOM, have always wondered about. 
          AND now? 
          I found a receipt that has been circling Twittah X and I DID shout out,
           "YES! FINALLY!" once I too, heard it! 
          THE closest TRUTH, ANY actual fans of Louis & Harry; Liam, Zayn and Niall will EVER get to hear being uddered, 
          from that demonic Cow Bell's own vile mouth!
          In my Book & yes, 'it's STILL messy but i degress...
          Was one of the lucky ones *before my old comp bit it in May 2023* to have had receipt's from waaay back; BEFORE photoshop!
          BEFORE AI & crappy people like SLOAN, who just wanted on the 'Larry Gravy Train' to exploit Louis & Harry's fans& pulled a Stern & Anti' standing; spreading his ish too. 
          As I was writing on my Book though, 
          years rolled on as they do. 
          Going back to those secret places I had been granted access to. 
          But, what I will share today? 
          It too, is real.
          For those also waiting for it? 
          chant with me! 
          THIS WAS A PROOF! OF HOW NOW? 1D IS TRULY FREE! 
          ANTI'S and other 'paid off' HATERS!? 
          YOU LOSE! and THEY, ALWAYS WIN!
          Please, visit: Louis' Harry's Liam's Zayn's and Niall's Socials TODAY!
          Showing THEM, your Support & Love!
          AMM 
          CHEERS!