flamlouant

heyy i'm answering here to the answer you wrote on my coment about confessions because wattpad won't let me post it there: (I copied and pasted what I wrote):
          
          Yes like there's this boy in my class who's quite big (reffering to body) and strong but he never hits anyone even if they are bothering him, he just push them away. And the other day in a class about important life defing situations we lived, he explained that he just can' hit people because he once did and he hurt someone in a bad way, and of course it doesn't seems sad because after all hitting is bad but he really gets nervous about it. And he also told he can't even touch people with glasses for the same reason (I guess the person he hurt had glasses). 
          And if you think about it each of us have a weak spot that gets touched by some things without people even noticing.
          And sometimes I wished we could just be ourselves and get to know everyone's real them without all that cover.

flamlouant

I agree with the first thing you say, we spend lots of time feeling bad about ourselves or thinking things to much, some people already figured out how to accept themselves so it's obviusly easier for them.
            I think that humanity improved a lot but there's still a lot to do. I mean people get offended if someone calls them racist or homophobic or whatever but no one stop and thinks why people are calling them that. People say they accept equal rights but then they do coments like "girls kissing is disgusting" or they believe is right if they don't have to see them acting like an average couple on the street. We say lots of things just following the flew but we dont stop to think what they mean.
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ChasingCagedClouds

@flamlouant yes I totally agree. if we were given the chance to explore ourselves and learn to understand our minds more, everything would be so much less stressful for us. we would be able to say what we need and probably have a better intuition (idk if thats the right word) when it comes to finding out what others need as well.
            
            I feel like kids today arent taught to be true to themselves anymore. yes, its all about liberty of the mind and expressing yourself but youre always supposed to do it a certain way. people expect  freedom to look the same in everyone when thats the last thing this is all about.
            
            and I also totally agree that we need to listen to eachother more closely but wont be able to if we still have to pay attention to our own thoughts so much that we cant hear others.
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flamlouant

yes I get what you said and it makes sense. The only real problem is being able to come to terms with ourself and be really proud and sure of who we are leting go all of the insecurities and stop thinking that much about them. If you are sure of yourself you won't care what people think and you will we able to listen to them without being on defensive.
            Insecurities and weak spots have to do with things that happened in the past and they might be bacause someone else said or made something but the problem is just inside ourselves because it is about how we take things and what's important to us. It's more a mental thing we have to come to termvwith because not everyone takes things the same way and the thing that hurt you the most might be stupid for someone else.
            It's late I don't know if you got my point.
            Okeyyy sleep well (here's only 12:20 pm)
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