Hannah E A

whoo my vent is officially over....lol

like in your stories you can make up literally anything you could make the perfect guy or at least a guy who is smart and respects you, but yet with the freedom to create anything we still create the white abusive caricature of masculinity that a male dominated media forces down our throats. straight up, if i could reimagine wattpad, i would want it to be a place where we still put out romance stories, just thats all of the women and girls together would create a place where you can imagine a romantic interest that actually respects you, that does not harass you, where the women around us are not our enemies, and that the conflict of the story is more varied than trying to 'save the bad boy', romance where we can share our interests and passions. that would be cool

and on the issue of consent i think the reason we buy into these stories is because everywhere around the media we see the abusive male presented as the 'attractive, dominant male' and it teaches us that as long as we find a person attractive and they find us attractive consent is not important, that we have no right to get angry when the hot guy just grabs you, pushes you up against a wall even forces a kiss on you. do people realise that, especially in werewolf stories, the narrative stops just shy of the guy actually hitting the girl. like he kidnaps, cages her against walls, shouts at her, growls at her, like guys who hurt you what do you have against being treated nicely. and like getting back to consent why are we so obsessed with narratives where choice is taken away from you, the moon goddess chooses your mate makes him physically attractive to you, the mafia guy kidnaps you and forces you to live under his will, an innocent girl finds a dom who tells her excatly what to do all of the time but its okay because thats his 'nature' and he has he best intentions at heart. do you know thats the narrative abusers use? im not out here to like shame people because i read this stuff just like everyone else, but it just scares me you know.

like wattpad effed me up by reinforcing these ideas that were supposed to be cool but are really about your own fear. not liking popular girls and hating parties is not the basis of an identity. men who like to sleep around do not talk to a shy slightly wierd girl and change their ways, that is not a replacement for therapy and trust me no person is that unique. guys who think ' shes the first one to say no to me, i gotta have her' will not make you happy. confidence is not equivalent to arrogance and introverts are not inherently more interesting than extroverts. we need to stop making our insecurities out to be strength it literally makes no sense to think you are better than someone else because you dont think your preety, but they know they look beautiful. thats not to say your horrible for being lonely or awkward or shy just that life is abouting getting a little bit better at comunictaing, learning to express yourself, meeting people who like you for you not because you hate the same people.

and what the fickity frack do you all have against consent, people ripped from there homes to live with partners, like this is the flippin neanderthal age. women who wait for their partners to make their decisions and fall in love with them because they feel 'protected'.

what is the obsession with 'lonely' 'abused' 'outsider' people, hot take: realistically these are the people most vulnerable to abuse in their own relationships. so why do you write them into relationships where someone else controls there lives? why is that the story that wants to be written by so many people here

if i see the words 'cold hearted' 'arrogant' and 'egotistical' one more f*cking time, i will yeet myself off a bridge