Guys, please help me find an old book about a general who has maybe 3 or 4 brothers and a younger sister. They are all a part of the kings guard. He is the general and the prince is his best friend and the princes' sister and the general have a sexual relationship for years. However, the general went to a function at a house and saw a girl who was not throwing herself at him like the others. She instead avoids him. He is determined to marry her bit in school she accidentally shaved his head and push him in poop so she was always afraid of him. The general does not remember though. The story describes the general as having long hair. Also the girl stays in a home with her cousin, sister, and parents and they do a family traditional dance when a member of the family is engaged. At 1 point in the book the girl is kidnapped by a prince of another land because that prince like the princess and they were having sex. The general visited the kingdom and found out, but the princess did not want that foreign king. Wen the general went to rescue the girl he almost got shot by an arrow but the girl turned to take the arrow for him. Also the general went off to fight and was in a coma and the girl took some medicine and she hallucinate about him so when he returned after a long time with an eye patch she thought she was hallucinating again. The girl also has a tendency to behave badly when she is drunk. Among the generals brother is 1 who is ill and not repected by his father because of his illness. The girl is timid and shy in the story.  The general took the girl to a celebration in the city and everytime she won food she would feed him and 1 if the brothers began to fal in love with her. Also the princess who fights alongside the general tried wearing a skirt but the generals siblings mocked her. She rried getting the girl to leave the general by intimidating her. In the generals family there is a tradition so on the wedding day the girl fired an arrow through a ring.