You don't look for who you are, you make who you are.
You would break. You would scatter. And you will find a way to pick the pieces and put yourself back together. And you will see that you make a better vase despite the visible cracks because this is a proof that you are a changed person. You may not be as shiny as you are before but you are a better person from the lessons you've gained in your fall. You can't find all the pieces at once and you may think it depressing but there is good in having to find the pieces for an extended time because that's where the fun comes in. And my advice NEVER TRY TO FIND THE PIECES BY YOURSELF. NEVER KEEP YOUR PIECES TO YOURSELF. Because in order to find a missing piece you need to show others the pieces that comes with it...