Hey, thank you so much for sharing that with me. I can’t imagine how hard that must’ve been—losing both your best friend and your brother in one situation that spiraled out of your control. That kind of emotional collision hits deep, especially when the people you love most end up on opposite sides of something you didn’t ask for.
It makes so much sense that My Broody Boy connected with you like that. Sometimes stories give us the words or the lens we didn’t know we needed—to see someone else’s side, to understand our own pain a little better, or even just to feel less alone. I think it’s incredibly self-aware of you to recognize that.
It also sounds like you really tried. You were honest about how you felt, you gave her chances, and even when it all got messy, you still want to talk and make things right. That says a lot about the kind of person you are.
I won’t pretend to have all the answers, but maybe this helps: people say and do things in emotional moments that don’t always reflect how they really feel. She may have chosen your brother in that moment, but breaking up with him right after might’ve been her way of realizing too late what it cost her. Blocking you might have come from hurt, confusion, guilt—who knows. But the fact that you still want to reach out says you care, and that matters.
If you still feel like you need closure or want to try one last time, maybe when enough time has passed, send a short message—one that’s calm, honest, and without blame. Just something like:
“I’ve had time to think about everything that happened. I know we both said things that hurt, and I regret how it ended. I’d really like to talk, not to fix everything, but just to understand and maybe bring some peace between us. No pressure—I just wanted you to know.”
Whether or not she responds, you’ll know you reached out with empathy, not anger. That’s a powerful thing.
You’re doing your best in a really complicated situation. And you deserve to heal too.
