@Froggy1988 Yesterday, I had a sit down with my husband and he said to me "Love, you used to come down here after writing and be happy and excited and tell me all the lovely things you'd been doing , but that hasn't happened now for ages, now you just talk about how people are being toxic.' I agreed with him, and decided it was time to step.back for a while, because the fandom really had killed my joy of writing - my one thing that has always got me through tough times.
I'm looking back on my year in this fandom, and I'm thinking a lot about the positives and the negatives. And let me say - I have met people on this fandom that I truly care about, that I have connected with, and that I truly consider friends even though we may never have actually met. I know a lot of other people I admire who produce artwork thats stunning. There are a lot of people I have not got to know well but that I can tell are talented, caring, likable people.
But there's this small element, thats like a virus - ruining everything it touches. There's these people who feel they have the power to control the dialogue In the fandom, that push they're ideas aggressively onto others, that think that they are more important than others, that stomp around intimidating, and shouting over others. That refuse the idea that they could possibly be wrong, that refuse to apologise if they've caused offence. People that have no interest in supporting others, that are only there to self advertise, to try and get attention and to try and be in control of others.
So if anybody, recognises what I'm saying , and has in any way shape or form ever felt hurt, or bullied, or intimidated, or silenced, by these toxic members, then please know that I will be here to listen to you.