For me gay is a umbrella term like really I don’t know how I feel about guys but I know I like girls so I just say gay but idk I use to be a little hoe when it came to boys but I remember my friend telling me she was bi and I didn’t really know what that was so I looked it up and I was like yes so am I so I started coming out as bi and all but idk there wasn’t really a moment I was like hey I’m gay it just felt natural like I had always known it, you don’t have to label yourself either like you could just have feelings for one girl and that be the only girl you ever like, that’s perfectly fine you don’t need to worry about it just live your life and suck dick or lick pussy don’t worry about jt