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"Smut is just porn. It isn't love." Sex is actually one of the most intimate things you can do with someone. It bonds you emotionally and physically. It's not porn, it's taking your relationship to the next level. In a world where casualy sex is a thing, the beauty behind it has been lost. And, when writing romance, sometimes sex is necessary to show character growth and a deeper intimacy. You don't have to go into detail about it, but sex can elevate romance.
As someone who has intimacy issues, having sex is the greatest form of trust I can give. I'm allowing my partner to see me at my most vulnerable which is incredibly hard for some people. It's a beautiful thing and it's also fun as well.
So, don't act all righteous saying shit like "smut isn't love." If you don't like it, that's fine, but don't go around lying to people.