Most people find it hard to let go of the things that hurt them the most, yet they still can't let go. The reason is that they are too attached to realize how deeply and painfully it is hurting them from the inside out. I'm not saying it's an easy thing to do or that you can forget about it quickly. It takes time—maybe days, months, or even years. It depends on the person. But it isn't impossible. You know that too. First, you need to have the courage to accept that you are being hurt by the very attachment you can't let go of, no matter what form it takes. You need to accept that it is hurting you and not bringing anything good into your life.
Now imagine you are holding onto a rope, and you are the only one putting in the effort. The strength it takes is slowly draining you. No matter how strong you are, your energy is being used where even more strength is needed, yet you are handling it all alone without accepting how much it is hurting you. By this, I mean that you should learn to let go. Not everything is meant to stay. You can't force anyone to stay. People make their own choices, and you can't force them to change those choices. If you do, then they aren't staying because they truly want to.
I know it hurts deeply, and sometimes the pain can't be explained with words. But the more you expect and try to force something, the more it will hurt you. Slowly, it can leave you feeling empty, to the point where you no longer recognize yourself. Letting go isn't easy. It's difficult, but it isn't impossible. The peace you feel after letting go is far better than silently suffering while no one knows what you are going through. Your efforts matter. You are worth more than the way people define you. Take care of yourself.
