so i might be demiromantic and the only reason I found that out was because a girl told me she liked me and i literally only talked to her like 2 times in my life. we made and out she kept touching my thigh and stuff but i literally had no romantic attraction to her, so that made me get upset bc she's very pretty. so i looked more into it and looked at aromanticism but i'm def not aro because i have been romantically attracted to people. but then i realized there was another option (psstt it's demiromantic). I'm definitely bisexual because I am sexually attracted to her. But i feel nothing for people unless they put themselves in the romantic interest part and then work for it. it sounds selfish but in all of my past relationships, i realized that i either was faking liking them because i felt like i should and i owed it to them or they had spent time courting me and putting themselves in the "Love Interest" position. That's when i started thinking of them as a romantic interest and my feelings began to grow and i fell in love.
i get a pretty decent amount of confessions but i never felt anything and i basically bullied myself into liking most of them back or i entered a relationship because i thought i owed it to them. but then i realized, rejection is a part of life, and i needed to learn how to say no. so when i explained my situation to The Girl and she got impatient with the whole thing and gave up and now i'm the bad guy because i didn't fall for her in the timeframe she wanted