I used to be a bad, selfish friend.
But I've come to realize it's because I never had any good friends to take examples from.
A good friend will talk to you about issues and not ignore them, this goes for both sides.
Bad behaviors from others have taught me how to be a bad friend, but it also taught me how to see when I've been gaslit.
A friend has taught me how to be a good friend, but recently, she has begun gaslighting me also.
Twisted things to make me sound like the unreasonable person, I didn't let it slide, and later that night, when she left mine, she side swiped a road guard.
The following time, when we hung out, she claimed that I caused her to get triggered.
I don't feel bad for not allowing myself to be thrown under the bus, which I think I'm a bad person for not feeling bad.
I had told her we can't just accuse someone for grooming without any actual evidence and just off rumors. It can ruin people's lives.
She tried manipulating our conversation so that I sounded like I was calling this guy a p3do. I only called him a creep.
When I talked to me about it, the following hang out, she tried to also say that I brought the guy up in conversation.
I disagreed and told her, "I literally told myself out not to because he's our friends friend, and it can't feel good for our friend, and I've actively not brought him up. I cracked a joke after he was brought up, and that was it."
I thought maybe I remembered that wrong, but then I remembered.
That is a classic sign of being gaslit.
It was the last straw when she told our friend I had feelings for him when I said I didn't, and i have a boyfriend.
I just wanted to know him better so we could all be close, especially since he's my BF's, friend.
It's what mature people do.