¡Rant warning! Tw: abuse, relationships, friendships, anxiety
Ok, so my two friends(C and L) used to date from July-December. They split on bad terms and stopped talking. They started talking again, and it became this on and off friendship. This week, C cut off contact with L and is no longer speaking to him.
C said that L was emotionally abusive and caused her to have an eating disorder. She also said that when they started dating, he threatened her with a steak knife. She said the last straw was that at a bar mitzvah they both attended, he was yelling at her, which caused her to have an anxiety attack and be escorted out by two bodyguards. The only reason that she was still friends with him, she said, was because I was friends with him.
I told her at LUNCH, after 3rd period, when she told me all of this, that I would also break off contact because I didn't want to be friends with someone like that and cause emotional baggage on my other friend.
Now, L however, disputes most of this. He said that yes, he was yelling at her, but that was because she kept ignoring him when he tried to have a conversation. He also said that she was, not in fact, escorted by bodyguards.
Now I feel conflicted because they're both my friends and now that I heard it from both sides, I don't essentially want to break contact with him especially since I am moving away to a new state. But, I don't want my friend to have all these problems because of someone like that. Yet, I don't know if he was it sad not abusive.
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