Lollylune

@Lollylune 
          	  As for the person, again, there's nothing pathetic about it. It's like high school all over again. You got a crush on someone and your body is doing annoying things and your mind is getting tired with it. You feel anxious, nervous and awful. Most of the time your thoughts are about "him" and often you end up feeling frustrated. You keep checking your phone, keep rereading old texts from him countless time. Every "ping" on your phone makes your heart yelp with anxiety, but when you see no sign of him reaching out to, you feel depressed. 
          	  
          	  I'm stating this example^ because I want to make it clear that what you're going through does not mean you're pathetic. You're just anxious and disappointed. If he's not reaching out to you or showing no interest at all, accept what Oli and other people on internet are saying. He's not the one. Accept it and move on. It's going to frustrate the fuck out of you, but you need to move on. 
          	  
          	  You're already doing your best. Keep going, and be patient with yourself along the way. They spending more time with your friends, visit a club, dance and chill. You need to relax your body and mind. Do what makes you feel relaxed. 

@Lollylune 
          	  Isn't this what you call having an 'interest in' or 'passion for' something? Everytime we start a new book or tv show, we keep thinking about it and obsessing over a character. And after a while we move on to some other book or show and repeat the whole thing again. I think it's pretty normal. Feeling disappointed or frustrated with this behavior is normal too, but it doesn't make you pathetic at all. Most of us go through this shit. Many people find themselves obsessing over someone or something, whether it's a character in a book, an actor. Sometimes, it's about our deep interest in something and sometimes, it's mind's way to fill a void or distract from other thoughts and feelings.
          	  
          	  However, even if it feels like a struggle, shifting from obsessing over a person to immersing yourself in a video game or other activities is a healthy coping mechanism and the only way you can move on. It's okay to dive deeply into other interests/distractions as long as it doesn't become overwhelming or detrimental to your well-being. 

I relate. Lmao. Not really for months, but books or stories tend to stay on my mind, and I drown myself in separation pain when it ends. If its fictional characters in book or actors, I'll be spending days searching about them. But it goes away as I keep getting more and more of characters, and 2GB memory can't hold on much. I can't tell about real people. Never really felt that obsession for anyone in real life, but i believe I'll be an obsessed lover if I fall in love.
          	  I believe the quickest way you can get over someone is when you try to realise your brain has created an image of that person who might not be the same as you tend to believe. It's painful when the reality is different than what we want, but it's better to face the truth now than be more hurt in the future.
          	  Idk how not to be obsessive if it's a real person whom you have communication. I guess diverting your mind into something else and doing something you love instead of waiting for their response. Remember to love yourself, and there's always other fish on the sea.