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I need to rant and need opinions
My bf's gran (which is his caregiver)
Said she likes me but thinks im too harsh for him and because of this shes worried i could bully him and he needs someone that adores him???
SO
FIRSTLY, i protect that man wholeheartedly, when we had a major fight instead of telling my family i kept quiet so they wouldnt hate me, then he told them everything except the parts where he was bad. So now i looking like a raging bitch and hes a sad boi
SECONDLY, literally all this friends love me and say we were made for each other and these are people hes been friends with since high school, and some more recent. They literally are so nice and trust me if his gran can like them she can like me
THIRDLY, why must i act like a giddy teen in love in front of them too PROVE that i love him??? Half the shit I DO FOR HIM is when hes in genuine trouble and cant tell his "beloved" gran. So naturally i look heartless now. But genuinely why is it the womans job to be doting and everything to a man???? Like im not saying he isnt, quite the opposite.
When we are surrounded by any fossilised adults his friends and my friends are like nope these two genuinely love each other and have chemistry.
What does she want me to do??? MAKE OUT WITH HIM MID-DINNER. ALSO IM HARSH? Basically you cant stand a woman with opinions who doesnt tell you every aspect of her life??? I dont know her that well so if its seems harsh if i dont dive into everything its because i dont know her
And now i genuinely dont trust her
Luckily the little sister likes me, shes 15, so fuck yeah, i didnt think so
His brother doesnt trust me after we fought, which is valid, but his take is if my brother is happy, I am happy. Cant hate him for it but i dont trust someone if they dont trust me so
His grandad is relatively chill, he said he doesnt know me well enough to make that call but so far no issues. Got to respect that
But the gran. I cant believe im beefing with an 70 year old :(