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An Unexamined life is a life worth not living said Socrates. 

Epictetus says you have submitted to a form of slavery when you put other people's opinion above yours.

You'll stop caring what other people think about you, when you have something more important to care about. If you care too much about what other people think it's probably because you don't have something more important to care about. 
          
          When you have something worth being embarrassed about, when you have something worth being belittled about, when you have something worth being ridiculed for, when you believe in something so intensely that it's so important that you're willing to lose friends or the respect and social validation that's when you stop caring what other people think. 
          
          And the irony of this of course is that it is the moment everybody starts respecting you.

How we see things of course matters. Shakespeare says, "Neither good or bad but our thinking makes it so". Event are objective and we tell ourselves what they mean.

Marcus Aurelius says "You do not have to have an opinion about that". I can see whatever it is as it is and not determine whether it is good or bad, fair or unfair, it just is. It doesn't need me projecting my thoughts or opinions or my perceptions about it.

Rude people are a part of life they're inescapable. The best revenge to the stoics is living well. Marcus Aurelius says, "The way you get even is by not being like that". Zoom way way way out, when you see things from a distance it becomes way more smaller.

He who suffers in his imagination suffers more than is necessary. 
          
          Have few opinions and you'll have less to complain about. 
          
          You don't have to have an opinion about everything and you don't have to have judgements about everything about what we see and hear.
          
          You should never complain. 
          
          

Epictetus says that it's not things that upset us but our opinions and judgements about them. 
          
          Seneca says that he who suffers before than it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary. We anticipate what could happen what might happen and torture ourselves about it in advance. 
          
          Marcus Aurelius writes, "Today I escaped my anxiety, or no I discarded it because it was within me"
          
          Epictetus says things do not make us anxious but we make ourselves anxious we have control over ourselves which means we can solve them.

THE CLOSER YOU GOT TO SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL, THE LESS BEAUTIFUL IT BECAME. ALLURE WAS IN THE MYSTERY NOT THE APPEARANCE.