We all know that thrill of getting to meeting a new friend. It keeps you going. You're excited to meet that person, the person's got the looks, you create ideas of how the person would be. 
Boom! You meet the person. You don't even get to know the person. You just are already disappointed because of course that idea you have created doesn't fit. How does it not seem to be? Nahh totally not worth it.
You forgot to;
Get to know the person
Not judge
Not thinking
Not tell the person how to be.

I would say this is how we should describe ourselves. Be yourself but don't lose yourself 💜