Nico-IDC
So I'm addressing another comment i made at one point that I know realise is problematic. Sadly, I do not know what book I commented this on, and I do not know when I commented on it. No one brought this comment to my attention, I just randomly thought of it and realised that it was problematic. The comment in question is one where i said something along the lines of "Ethan nestor is the second luckiest fan ever. He's only second to daniel howell because dan lives with and is currently in a relationship with his idol, while ethan and his idol are only friends." I have found two issues with this comment. The first of the two issues I notice right away is that this comment implies that friendship is less of a relationship that being romantically involved with someone. I believe that was intended at the time because 1. I pretty much said exactly that, and 2. I used to believe that romantic relationships were just more of a relationship than friendship, that was my mindset. I now understand that while friendship can lead to romantic relationships, that they are two different types of relationship, and friendship is not less of a relationship than a romantic one, it is just different. The second issue is that this comment might imply that Ethan wants to date Mark (his Idol). I do not, and I have never believed this to be true. Ethan has stated that he does not think he would ever date a man, and Mark has stated that he is straight. Beyond that, regardless of sexuality, I do not believe that there is any sort of romantic feelings between them, and I have never believed that. I'm sorry if anyone felt hurt, offended, or invalidated by this comment. I had a different way of thinking than I do now, and I did not see the issue with this comment while I was writing it, or when I sent it.
Nico-IDC
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