NoireEtRouge

Things have not been going great as of recently. My fiancé lost his best friend today. Because when we were going to talk things over. But she wouldn’t listen and kept being rude and not allowing me to speak without her cutting me off. Because all it seems to sound like is that she wants to hear her own voice. So I got irritated with it and feed up with her that I hung up the phone. Also, it was supposed to just be them talking but my fiancé called me because she said to. I was willing to talk things over and try and get my point across. But all I have ever seen is her being rude to me and him and treating him as though she can use him whenever she pleases. I did want the friendship to end between them. But I feel horrible for everything. And because my fiancé doesn’t cry, I basically cried for him. But she made him choose and I knew he would have to choose maybe not today but at some point I knew this was all going to happen. But she made it as though there was no other option, but me or her. Because she doesn’t like me and I did try for him. But there was always going to be something between us two. But she needs to know where she can stick her nose into. And I keep apologizing to him because Ik it’s probably my fault this all happened. But she was never in the right either. But she may say that she saw both sides but she was never really seeing both sides. She also just has a problem with females in general. But that doesn’t mean to go and take everything out on someone that has not done anything to you. I just think she will always have problems with females and never be able to understand other girls. But apparently guys are easier somehow. 
          	
          	Sorry for the really long post. I just need a bit of venting.

NoireEtRouge

Things have not been going great as of recently. My fiancé lost his best friend today. Because when we were going to talk things over. But she wouldn’t listen and kept being rude and not allowing me to speak without her cutting me off. Because all it seems to sound like is that she wants to hear her own voice. So I got irritated with it and feed up with her that I hung up the phone. Also, it was supposed to just be them talking but my fiancé called me because she said to. I was willing to talk things over and try and get my point across. But all I have ever seen is her being rude to me and him and treating him as though she can use him whenever she pleases. I did want the friendship to end between them. But I feel horrible for everything. And because my fiancé doesn’t cry, I basically cried for him. But she made him choose and I knew he would have to choose maybe not today but at some point I knew this was all going to happen. But she made it as though there was no other option, but me or her. Because she doesn’t like me and I did try for him. But there was always going to be something between us two. But she needs to know where she can stick her nose into. And I keep apologizing to him because Ik it’s probably my fault this all happened. But she was never in the right either. But she may say that she saw both sides but she was never really seeing both sides. She also just has a problem with females in general. But that doesn’t mean to go and take everything out on someone that has not done anything to you. I just think she will always have problems with females and never be able to understand other girls. But apparently guys are easier somehow. 
          
          Sorry for the really long post. I just need a bit of venting.

NoireEtRouge

So I have a situation and I would like some help, if you guys could.
          
          So my fiancé has a girl best friend and well she never really vibed right with me. She likes to pop up whenever she feels like it or disappear for an extended amount of time. But the thing is she gets angry when he doesn’t respond for a certain amount of time, when she does the same thing. She always gave off that she didn’t ever want me around him and she has a boyfriend. Which doesn’t make sense. And from my point of view it seems like a one sided friendship. But I had depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. All these are bad because I lose a lot of weight in just a day. But anyway, I have expressed my insecurities to him. And explained it to him in many different ways. Yet, he sees no problem. He has also liked her many different times and yes they have know one another since freshman year. But he doesn’t see the problem. I don’t know what to say.Also, I would like to know if you guys where in this situation would you be cool with the friendship or would you have a problem?

NoireEtRouge

It’s more of that I’ve talk to him about it and her well I honestly can say that I would rather not talk to at all because I already felt as though something was wrong when I tried to be her friend and when they were around one another
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zedy_hedy

@NoireEtRouge I- 
            I'd have every bit of a problem with it oml, if it hurts your relationship and hurts you and he can't see it that's not your fault. It's a natural insecurity to have, you can't be blamed for that. Just talk it out with her, and when she lashes, take the receipts to him ig and sort your things out before getting him involved in your problems with her. idk
            Take care and stay safe
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