CW CHILD-ON-CHILD SEXUAL HARM (very minor but regardless, just opening up about my trauma heh)
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So...a few of you know that in third grade, I suffered a minor assault by a classmate. He was my bathroom buddy one day during our after-school ceramic class. I'm afab and was living as a girl at the time, and it confused me when he insisted on coming into the bathroom stall with me. He was two grades older and it seemed at the time (and could even have been) like he saw me as younger and kinda helpless, which pissed off little autistic Pearl. It was fine though because he turned his back, but when I was done, he insisted on "cleaning" me. I repressed the memory for years, for obvious reasons, and it came back about a year ago. I was fingered, basically, with no idea what was going on. It was so scary and confusing in retrospect, and it took me a long time to tell an adult. Even now, most people in my offline life don't know.
It adds a layer for me to being livid about people saying that no doesn't mean no. I was too young and confused to even know how to say no because I didn't know I needed to, but if I could have, I would have. I would have said it a thousand times over if I had been an adult in that situation and able to say no. It always means no unless previously stated otherwise. Anyone here who believes otherwise can go right to hell.