PapaLouieArcade
this is a question for Juliet.
My ex broke up with me 7 months back. We had a 2 and a half year relationship and the first year was magical but then something happened which made us almost break up and our relationship soured considerably and caused a lot of fights. 6 months following that was a cycle of break up - patch up - breakup in which in the end I blocked him for a month or two and after that I realised no I can't let him go and we should give this another try. the year after that was good, if I had to pick it apart I could very easily now say that this is what was wrong which is why it was never possible that it could work, but the truth is back then it never felt that way.
Anyway, now we've been broken up for 7 months now and I thought I was pretty much over him. we don't talk much, we go to the same college so our paths cross, we have a few mutual friends but even then its not like our friend group is hanging out together everyone is pretty much busy in their own lives.
I recently got to know that he's dating another girl and even though I was reasonably sure that I'm over him it just crushed me. the knowledge crushed me. Prior to this he wanted to stay friends even after the breakup and that was fine with me cos I thought I was over him but then he started drawing lines that I can't meet you, we can't talk on call, etc etc. When he initially did that it thought ok he needs his space and it didn't bother me but now that I know these boundaries are for his girlfriend I just can't--
PapaLouieArcade
and he doesn't even know this girl they've met once they were set up together by a mutual friend of theirs and they're in a long distance relationship and to me this just looks like either a marriage of convenience or a plain and simple rebound but then again he's doing all this for her and he never did for me and we were in love and it hurts so much and all I can think of is how to break them up.
I mean I don't even know the girl and my ex doesn't talk to me anymore actually he was fine with texting but when I got to know he doesn't want to meet me anymore or call I was the one who blocked him cos I felt if the line needs to be drawn it needs to be clear but now Im thinking stuff like I want to come in between them and cause trouble and break them up and I'm not that kind of person im a girls girl I believe when a guy cheats on his gf with another girl if the girl knows he was in a relationship they are both equally to blame cos its the guys fault off he was supposed to be loyal but its the other girls fault as well cos why did she willingly do that
and now I can only think of being a home wrecker or being the other girl and I don't even like him that way I just hate that girl whom he's dating I don't know her but I hate her so so much
please help
PapaLouieArcade
he got together with her on our anniversary. we started dating on 24 may 3 years back and he got with her on 25 may and no this is not something I got to know cos I stalked him he told me this upfront. the really big fight we had was because one of his friends was causing issues in our relationship and I asked my ex to not discuss our relationship with him, and then I started losing trust and I asked him to just cut off that friend but he never did and always offered me excuses even tho from my pov that friend and my ex were never that close.
and I didn't even want to be friends after the breakup it was him who always insisted how I'm his best friend and the best thing that happened to him and he wants me around and that's how we had gotten in a comfortable rut of talking then and again and it was good. and now that I know he's cutting me out of his life for his shiny new girlfriend when he never prioritised me like that it just cuts. so. deep.
for all intents and purposes I am really over him but then again this just hurts so much I can't even--
