ReaganBlue_Scott
When my brother came out, he didn’t know what the word pansexual meant. He didn’t know that pansexual was what he meant when he sat my parents and I down and told us “I’m capable of falling in love with anyone.” Keep in mind, my brother came out in 2004 and passed away in 2011. My parents were confused. They said “do you like boys or do you like girls?” And he said “both and more.” And he told us “you need to prepare yourself for me coming home with someone I love, and them being anybody.” And so my parents did. They gave my brother three imaginary partners so that they could practice pronouns. Daniel used he/him pronouns, Cassandra used she/her pronouns, and Alex used they/them pronouns. And they would practice specific scenarios until it made sense and it was natural. “Ryder brought them to a movie.” “I caught Ryder kissing him in his room.” “Ryder went to prom with her.” I’m not saying that this works and it might not be okay with some people who are bisexual or pansexual, but it was something. It was something done by two parents of a boy who lived in Alabama in 2004. Please respect people‘s pronouns. Misgendering somebody on accident is okay, and when they correct you, fix it. But doing it on purpose is wrong and it’s gross. Please listen to people when they tell you their pronouns. Please respect them, because we’re all human.
ReaganBlue_Scott
As an eight year old then, I thought it was the coolest thing for him to have imaginary people he dated because I had imaginary friends. He was. I wasn’t his sister biologically, but he accepted me and played such a big role in raising me. And he has such a cool story and I love being able to tell it after he’s gone because he is and always will be one of the biggest parts of mine.
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stilestastic
i really like the hypothetical partners as a way for people to practice using pronouns, that was a really good idea. i’m so sorry about your brother, he sounds like he was an amazing person
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