I saw someone say that the standard for women is too unrealistic while i agree with that, they said it because y/n in the story they commented under was crying. I feel like saying that someone is weak for crying, comes from the idea that "men shouldn't cry, crying is for the weak", weak refering to women, I feel that THIS is an unrealistic expectation. It's unrealistic for you to call someone "weak" because they are showing emotions. If you think someone is weak for showing their emotions or if you shame others for showing them because you don't show them yourself, you probably have some deeply rooted issues. I used to think this way too because my parents taught me it was weak to cry and they would always threatened me when i cried, so whenever i did cry or couldn't hold in my cries, it caused me to think something was wrong with me or that i was actually weak, this caused a lot of problems in my mental health.