Deal with your traumas and insecurities before having marriage life and children.
If you don't, you will depict all of your sufferings towards your spouse and children. You might not abuse them but you torture them with trauma dumping and your disability to show love.
If you don't, you will not be able to care for your spouse or your children because you don't even care for yourself.
If you don't, your children will grow up and see you as someone you don't want to be at the first place; the causes of traumas and insecurities.
Sincerely,
Shafaryna.