"suppose that you were sitting down at a table. the napkins are in front of you, which napkin would you take? the one on your 'left'? or the one on your 'right'? the one on your left side? or the one on your right side? usually you would take the one on your left side. that is 'correct' too. but in a larger sense on society, that is wrong. perhaps i could even substitute 'society' with the 'universe'. the correct answer is that 'it is determined by the one who takes his or her own napkin first.' ...yes? if the first one takes the napkin to their right, then there's no choice but for others to also take the 'right' napkin. the same goes for the left. everyone else will take the napkin to their left, because they have no other option. this is 'society'.

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