With nearly 15 years experience in the amazing BDSM lifestyle, I have come to truly appreciate it's significance.  While many only focus on the sex, I have discovered that when you allow the sex to take care of itself and actually explore what BDSM really accomplishes, you will see your relationship in a whole different light. 

I have always said, "If you make it about sex, it will always be about sex". If this is what you want out of a relationship, then I wish you the best. 

If you want to establish and maintain a healthy relationship with BDSM, don't take shortcuts. There are so many options of exploration that has nothing to do with sex. 

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