Ok I'm sorry, but some of you guys really don't know the definition of 'reader insert'. Like I've said before, describing specifics about 'y/n' that the person reading does not relate to disconnects them from the story. If there are specifics about 'y/n', especially physical characteristics, just make it an OC.
This might seem like a bit much, but here are some ways to make your reader insert as neutral and inclusive as possible:
- Use they/them pronouns, and don't specify the gender. If you do, just make sure to mention it beforehand.
- Saying "y/n's cheeks turned red" "y/n paled" indicates the reader has lighter skin. Instead use other physical signals or internal sensations. Like for embarrassment/any form of discomfort: clearing their throat, avoiding eye contact, covering their face, face feeling hot, increased heartbeat, quickly changing the topic. And for fear/surprise: eyes widening, fight or flight. Just talk about the emotion behind the act or a physical reaction to what is happening that doesn't indicate skin color.
- You don't need to use e/c, h/c etc. you can just say "their eyes/hair". Also, keep out things that suggest a specific hair length.
- If it's not the main point of the story, keep any indications of y/n's height, size, and body shape out. I've seen way too many reader inserts like this, stop it.
- I understand it's difficult to make y/n neutral for smut scenes, so just mention it before. But if you want to, try not making it specific if y/n has breasts (replace with "chest"), or a clit/pussy or a dick.
- If the personality of y/n is important or a main focus in the story, mention it beforehand. And if you give y/n flaws or certain personality traits, make sure you know how to write it realistically. I've seen a lot of stories that are very stereotypical in that sense and it gets really annoying.
Hope this helps!