In daily life, one thing that many people find hard to deal with is controlling their anger. Maybe you’ve tried many ways to manage it, but still feel like nothing is changing. It’s important to understand that controlling anger doesn’t mean it should go away instantly. It doesn’t work like that.
Controlling anger means not acting on or believing the thoughts that come when you are angry. You may feel like, "This is how I should react," but that’s the anger trying to take control of you.
When you’re angry, everything feels annoying and frustrating. You feel tired and upset. Of course, you won’t just smile and say, “I’m fine now.” It takes time to calm down, and it’s not easy. Only you know how deeply you're hurting inside. Anger often comes from pain—like feeling misunderstood, mistreated, ignored, or frustrated. These feelings build up over time and finally come out as anger.
But in the end, it’s your choice how you deal with yourself and the situation. Feeling angry doesn’t mean you are a bad person. It just means you're human. However, anger affects you the most—from the beginning to the end. It comes from emotions you’ve buried inside for a long time. When they reach their highest point, they explode.
Try to understand yourself through calm and wise thinking. Don’t let overthinking make it worse. Always remember: anger only brings more pain and regret. You can’t change others, but you can work on yourself. Focus on your own growth and healing. That’s how you’ll improve.
