adisastrouslesbian
I need outsider opinions because idk if I’m being stupid about this!!
Okay so my friend group is in shambles rn but one of the girls she’s so sweet but she’s been struggling with depression for a while and she’s texted our big gc saying she’s struggling and it’s overwhelmed so she’s taking a step back and isn’t going to socialise as much (which is so valid and most of us have supported her with this) but 2 girls have been spamming and refusing to give her space and have been getting people to text her asking for her to talk to them, and they keep nagging about what’s wrong with her?! Like hello she’s struggling go away!!
So my question is, is it like wrong for me to distance myself from them and tell them they’re being dicks? Idk if I’m overreacting about this or not! Help meeeeee
dedicated_maraudee
@adisastrouslesbian I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. I don’t think enough people understand the difference between leaving a channel open for their friend to talk for whenever they feel ready and forcing them to. There is such a big difference in taking time for yourself and focusing on your mental health and just plain up isolating yourself. But still in either case you can’t just spam them and try to trap them into an uncomfortable position. I hope the two girls intentions are pure because then with conversation they may be able to understand why that’s not the correct was to go about it. But if it’s not and they can’t see their errors then I understand wanting to distance yourself.
deviilofhellskitchen
girl no. that girl doesn't owe anyone entertainment. if she's having a hard time and wants to step back for a while, that's completely fine. nobody can force her to do anything she doesn't want to.
plus, if they're doing this to her, they might do the same to you and the others when you're overwhelmed and need a break. i think you should talk to the rest of the group and get their opinion on this, then approach those two with a decent conversation and if that backfires, I guess it'll be your turn to get ugly lol
i hope your friend is doing better and i hope she knows she's allowed to feel the way she is right now❤️
