Abusers won't abuse everyone they meet. They do that to maintain their good image and They usually pick on the most docile and vulnerable ones till nothing's left in that person. I highly recommend avoiding people who are way too nice especially when they just met you. That's love bombing and they do that to enclose you. As if you will feel love like you never did before but they will drain and destroy you. and if you hear stories about them and when you sense something is wrong, what you heard is right. Though of course you must observe and gather evidence first. Narcissists have a charm and when you don't decipher that or recognize that, you are in danger. That's why it's important to surround yourself with people who truly support and care about you. Especially your family. You don't have to acquire a lot of friends to be happy. In reality, you just need a few great ones that are much more worth than a billion friends.