@castielgreyson
i've not been active in fucking FOREVER, but i'm castiel greyson (i still go by grey, but cas is also super cool!!) and i go by they/he now!!
hey, i don’t know what to do. i’ve been out as nonbinary to my mom for two years, i prefer more masculine titles, as i am transmasc, but she continues to call me by my deadname, and uses every feminine phrase she can fit into a conversation. i’m in agony at home, because i’m constantly miserable, and then she invalids me for having feelings, and i just don’t know what to do. i’ve talked to her multiple times, but nothing changes. am i just not nb enough? is it my fault?
@eden-grey it's not your fault. You are nonbinary and it's her fault for not accepting you for who you are. If she doesn't accept you, that is her problem to work through. I'd say keep reminding her of who you are and most importantly: keep reminding yourself of who you are. Do not ever invalidate yourself because that just means she's winning the battle. Keep reminding yourself that you are valid. Do not accept her doing this. Ever. It is not okay and she needs to be told that. If you get really pissed off and you want to do something back, I have an idea. Just use her own tactics against her. Call her by the wrong gender or by a rude nickname. Only do this if you really want to though. Like I said: NEVER accept her doing this. If it makes you feel invalid it is NOT okay. I won't be on much today but around 9 pm I will be on so if you want to talk to me we can do so then
@eden-grey @eden-grey It can never be your fault when it comes to gender and sexuality acceptance! And "not nb enough" is not a thing. You are entitled to be called and perceived exactly how you feel like. If you feel that nb, trans or whatever else suits you, then you are. Period. It will always be hard for certain people to accept that, especially for parents, because it's hard for them to understand that their child is different from the "normal" that the society pictures. They fear you'll be criticized, left out and they are confused. Times have changed and their child is maybe growing too fast for them... I would suggest accepting your mother's stubbornness (if I can call it that) for now. After all, you can't expect acceptance if you don't accept first. I am sure she doesn't want to hurt her child's feelings, she just wants you to be that "normal" she sees around so you don't suffer. But you are, what, you are and you are valid and you have the right to be your own person. With time, the people you care about will learn to respect you. Just be patient and have faith! I'm here if you need someone to talk to <3
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Thanks for the follow!
your pfp is adorable!!!
