deft0nesg1rl
I've thought more about certain fears I have recently, and it's only made me realize, as I grew older it almost always circles back to misogyny. As much as we as women strive to fight against it and eradicate it from existence, we can't help but realize, misogyny has been implemented in us since practically birth. I've always been deathly afraid of looking or feeling stupid, especially when it comes to school and education in general. You don't hear about smart women often in school, you hear about Albert Einstein, Nikola Tesla, not Marie S. Curie, or Ada Lovelace or even Rosalind Franklin, I'm a girl, surely I can't be stupid because then I'd play into the stereotypes, right? This fear of fitting into the stereotypes is its own way of misogyny creeping into our daily lives. The shame I feel when I don't perform as well as a guy in an athletic context, the embarrassment I feel when I'm bad at a video game, the dread I feel when I have to do anything in the kitchen, and so much more. It's all been implemented in me since birth, I am ashamed to be a woman, I am afraid to show I have the body of a woman, I hate anything pink. I let misogyny ruin me, and that is a terrifying and dystopian discovery. It's a very very sad thing to realize in this dystopian patriarchy, they make you hate yourself before you stop to think and doubt.
deft0nesg1rl
@mikalikesmoons what a wonderful way of looking at it, this inspired me to view my circumstances in a more positive light, and I agree those labels sound ridiculous and only seperate us more
mikalikesmoons
@deft0nesg1rl oh my God and I hate it when there are specific terms for females when it's not necessary. for example, actor and actress is fine but architect and.. "architectress" ?? hello..? why are we dividing and labelling .. this may not irritate everyone but I personally feel that most of it is for mocking women who are in ehem "male dominated" fields ..
mikalikesmoons
@deft0nesg1rl I like to think of it this way that instead of feeling ashamed, it's better to be proud and strive with it to pay off all females in the past who couldn't. All females in the past who got treated unfairly, experienced prejudice and never got the chance to do what they like best. For example, me, being the only girl in my physics class with 9 other males, I try to be more active and constantly participate even at times when I barely understand anything, to be a good "representation", use my education opportunity and learning will instead of all other girls out there in the world (still, unfortunately) who can't. Though, it's hard to admit that acting and being feminine now feels scary to me since it is seen as a weakness. This also leads to how the word "pick me" was just used for women who didn't want to be seen as the traditional, stereotypical female, at least that's what I think. When my d*d asks me to take the dishes to the kitchen while he watches TV I feel so icky and man idk how to explain it. pretty sad how misogyny is included everywhere and is normalized without us even realizing it.
