girIbite

im 5 years on this app today!

girIbite

i need a secondary opinion again… my bf’s birthday is next month and his parents told him to have a party. he decided to have a bbq with all his friends (all guys) and didnt think to invite me. he says we’re gonna do something just the two of us but in kinda upset that he didnt invite me to whats basically his bday party. am i being overly sensitive??? thoughts???

kiaracarreras

@girIbite i do think you’re being a little bit sensitive because he still said he wants to do stuff with you alone, i think he’s allowed to have alone time with his friends and it’s important to do things apart, it also depends if you’re going to be the only girlfriend there because then it might feel like he’s more focused on you then his friends and having fun with them so in a way you have a right to feel left out but also not? Because he did say he wants to do something with you alone
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rottedbruises

this may be a little blunt but something i believe worth hearing since you’re young and presumably this is probably you’re first real relationship: having a birthday party with only his friends really isn’t something to be upset about. it’s healthy to do things apart and it’s really important to keep and flourish friendships outside of romantic relationships. he mentioned to you that he’s still wanting to do something with just the two of you for his bday, that’s good, do that and enjoy that! just because he wants to spend time with his friends for a single event does not mean that he doesn’t want to spend time with you. if the roles were reversed, how would you feel if he had a problem with you spending quality time with your friends without him being there? that’s just not a healthy standpoint to have in a relationship that you want to flourish and last. <333
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daily-doors

I mean…I guess like, he is okay for doing that but also inconsiderate for not inviting you, sure yeah, a birthday party with the boys but it wouldn’t be too bad to invite you?? depends on how you are with his friends in a way. Best way is to talk to him and be like ‘hey you know how come I can’t go? I would love to go to this birthday part’ but if he wants to spend separate day with you I guess that’s a good thing because he is also thinking about you. IDK MAN, communication is the best option, it won’t ruin your relationship if you talk, speaking from experience. Think about it, talk to him.
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girIbite

guys I need to know what you think if my bf watches p*rn while in a relationship is that cheating??? cuz I didn't know people thought that but now im doubting myself

juvenilegirls

i’m going to be so transparent right now— my ex boyfriend had a porn addiction and it caused him to have wandering eyes and ruin our sex life. he had unrealistic expectations on what sex should look like and we were doing it 5x a day when we lived together, which led to us not doing anything else and ruining our relationship. i don’t think that watching porn is necessarily cheating but it can lead to cheating or at least lead to desires that make you feel as though you aren’t enough.
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rottedbruises

i personally don’t find it cheating, i don’t mind that my bf watches it tbh but if you have a problem with it and you tell him that but he continues to do it anyway, it’s important you two have a conversation about it. especially if it takes away from your own intimacy as a couple with him
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yllwjckts

it’s cheating
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