heartfates

I have such a strong urge to post all my drafts just so I can make covers for them

gutsfang

well yes!
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goddessrots

@heartfates do it!!!!
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crshedfvck

Hi Lottie. I just wanted to genuinely apologize for using the wrong pronouns when I credited you for the cover. As soon as I realized what I did, I felt horrible.
          
          I want you to know it was never intentional, and I would never purposely disrespect you. I honestly just blanked while I was making the post this morning, but that’s still on me, and I’m really sorry. I should’ve taken an extra second to make sure I got it right.
          
          I really appreciate everything you’ve done for me, and you’ve always been so kind. The fact that I messed something like that up makes me feel awful because it’s the last thing I would ever want to do. You deserved to be referred to correctly, and I’m sorry that I didn’t do that.
          
          I completely understand if you’re upset or if this made you uncomfortable. I just wanted to apologize directly because I never want you to think I don’t respect you. Thank you again for making my cover and for everything else you’ve done. I’m truly so sorry.

crshedfvck

also!! out of respect for you, i will not be ordering let alone ask for anymore covers from you. since i disrespected you, i don’t think it’s right for me to even think abt ever ordering something from you, it’s common sense to me not to do that, so no need to worry about me coming in ur graphic lotto but i hope i can still support ur cover and themes unless u want me to not interact with u after this convo? whichever makes u feel more comfortable to do, i’m completely fine since it’s ur feelings and ur feelings that i made hurt really terribly. tell me whatever u think is best for me to do :)
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crshedfvck

Thank you for taking the time to explain all of this to me. I really did read everything you said, and I understand a lot more now than I did before.
            
            I honestly didn’t realize how much this has been affecting you or that Wattpad is one of the only places where you feel like you can truly be yourself. Reading that you had already been struggling with people using the wrong pronouns and even had a breakdown over it, only to wake up and see that I did the same thing, genuinely made me feel awful. I’m so sorry that I added to something that’s already been weighing on you.
            
            I also understand now that my assumption about they/them pronouns was completely wrong. I shouldn’t have assumed that because some people I know are comfortable with multiple pronouns, that meant everyone who uses they/them would be. That wasn’t fair to you, and I appreciate you taking the time to explain why that way of thinking is harmful. I won’t make that assumption again.
            
            I know saying I didn’t mean to hurt you doesn’t erase the fact that I did. Intent doesn’t change the impact, and I completely understand why you were hurt. You shouldn’t have to keep reminding people to respect something that’s clearly important to you, especially when you’ve made it so visible in your bio and your rules.
            
            Thank you for being patient enough to explain this instead of just writing me off. I really am sorry, and I’m going to take what you said seriously and educate myself so I can do better moving forward. I genuinely appreciate you being honest with me, and I hope, with time, I can earn back some of the trust I lost.
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heartfates

            To add to that, I also saw your message to Poppy and I wanted to clear something up that you said in that! Your assumption that people who use they/them meant you could also use she/her or he/him is extremely harmful to the non-binary community. Just because your friends are okay with it, doesn’t mean other people are! That mindset is so so harmful because not everyone identifies the same way, and you shouldn’t just assume they do. If I went by other pronouns, I’d have “she/they” or whatever pronouns I identify with in my bio instead. But I don’t! Just because I have a feminine name doesn’t mean I use she/her pronouns. 
            
            I appreciate your apology, but I would really recommend doing some research on the non-binary (and maybe even trans) community!
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