Ishu Baskar

@ishubaskar217 you took the words out of my mouth! Every time I feel low or sad about not having a family for me, my husband and specifically my daughter, I always remind myself of the same thing. Having our little strong triangle of mutual love, respect and trust is so much better than the toxic and unsupportive relationships. And honestly my daughter doesn’t miss having a big family cause she doesn’t even know that she could’ve had one! i have realized something - there is a reason why I feel a warm connection with you. Having known you a little through our chats, you remind me a lot of my younger days. Makes me feel like I am meeting a 25 year old me all over again! You have the same tenacity and the zest to find your happiness that I had back then. And that is why I feel that you will go onto having a wonderful life the way you want with a great partner. Keep your head high!  Even if your neighbors, relatives or parents taunt you, don’t let that bog you down. You come across as a strong girl who knows how to fight for herself. A roaring career, a loving partner and just a few chosen non- toxic people around you is enough to feel good about your life.   

@ishubaskar217 Thank you for your wonderful words! They mean a lot. I have always stood up for what I feel is right and what makes me happy. But its not an easy path. It makes my heart swell with happiness when someone acknowledges the effort and courage that it takes to stand up for yourself. My life is truly a little too dramatic. But its not a movie, its my real life! And I think the main reason is because I learned very early in life that Life is not always fair, easy and fun. Yes, you will have moments that are joyful, trouble free and righteous. But life is sprinkled with many hurdles, unfair and painful times as well. So I never gave up fighting for my rights and happiness. Thats the only way I know to justify my existence and the only way I think I can stay happy. The older generation is set in their ways and won’t ever change. But it’s not my job to change them. I used up every ounce of my being to convince my family to not throw me out of my house. But it didn’t work. I was visiting India for the first time after my marriage ( I left for USA right after my wedding) This was like a married daughter was coming home for her first Diwali tradition. Things went south and my dad gave me an ultimatum - it must be your family or your husband. I chose hubby and they literally asked me to call a cab and leave. I was given 2 hours to pack my belongings! The hardest part was my flight back to USA. My pregnancy and the first year after my daughter was born have been the toughest phases of my life. A new mom needs guidance from elders as she is new to this. I had none. My husband and I did it all by trial and error. We learned how to care for our baby by watching videos on youtube and reading books! We were both exhausted because we didn’t have any help at all. But we did it. We have the loveliest daughter we could ask for! And thankfully we didn’t make many mistakes raising her without support. She is a great little 6 year old happy bouncy child!

@85Mugs It must have taken incredible strength to get through that time. You truly deserve admiration for your resilience. From my own 20 years of observations, I’ve realized that even relatives or family members can sometimes be the most toxic people in our lives. Protecting your peace—even if it means distancing yourself—is often the best decision.That said, I wholeheartedly believe that the love you and your husband share is more than enough for your child. It’s a gift greater than anything else. I can already imagine your child growing up with a beautiful childhood, filled with love, happy memories, and a strong sense of belonging.You’re creating something truly special—a loving and joyful family—and that is what matters most