millah257

POLIGAMI
          
          My take on this :
          
          Allah perintahkan pada Nabi s.a.w untuk berpoligami semata2 nak meningkatkan darjat mereka. Beri perlindungan.
          
          Kita manusia biasa, Allah swt tak suruh pun, namun dia pun tak melarangnya. Tapi sudah tentu bersyarat.
          
          Dalam banyak2 syarat, berlaku ADIL ni maybe 99.9% lelaki tak memenuhinya. Jgn digula2kan oleh lelaki mempermainkan tindak tanduk Nabi saw semata2 nak memenuhi nafsu sendiri. Nabi s.a.w maksum, u all tak maksum.
          
          Nampak tak kedudukan lelaki & wanita ni di mana when comes to polygamy?
          
          Just remember, jika ia lebih mendatangkan keburukan dari kebaikan, elakkanlah dari berpoligami. Bukan menentang. Cuma ada yg fikir mereka mampu dari segala hal walhal tidak. Ada yg kata boleh memujuk. 
          
          Banyak tentang issue ni boleh dibentangkan..tapi malas lah. Fikir sendiri.
          
          Lagi2 perempuan yg sanggup menumpang kasih walhal dia tahu cinta pada manusia hanya sebentar sahaja. Last2 makan hati sehingga suami bercerai berai dgn yg pertama. 
          
          Ingatlah..berdosa besar tu. If u want to share feelings whatever don't make it difficult for other women yg tak suka berkongsi husband.
          
          Nak menulis mcm ni pun rasa berdosa sebab I nampak lebih banyak yg mendatangkan kemudaratan dari kebaikan dlm polygamy zaman sekarang. 

When I read kat socmed, org Msia kata KFC mahal, I takdelah rasa sgt. Sebab 2 - 3 tahun lalu mmg masih murah harganya di SIN. Last year tiba price hike almost double. Alahai...malas pulak nak beli. Lucky ada Arnold's. Nasib price hike tak banyak. Within acceptable range and consistent.

It has been years since I shun from people. Socialising is okay. But long durations or in a crowd of friends really drained my energy.
          
          Vain? Stuck up? Non at all. I do love socialising however I keep it at a minimum.
          
          Simply because I'm prideful and unreasonable at times.
          
          However, basically it's due to self entitled people or narcissists. Tired tau nak campur in this crowd. Lagi penat kalau jenis white lotus atau green tea person. Alahai..but have to admit sometimes u have to put up pretense too.

One thing about learning is, never give up even if u keep failing. Stop if u can't endure. After awhile, pick it back up.
          
          Sama juga mcm kehidupan. Jgn mudah putus asa. 
          
          I may sound opinionated most of the time tapi those that really knew me knows me better. It just that I always said think halfway or in passing lepas tu terlupa nak sambung that caused all misunderstanding. Sebab tu kekadang lebih suka diam. Lebih aman.
          
          Semoga bila Ramadhan ini berakhir, I never end it with kemurkaan Allah swt. May Allah swt protect our Iman and secure it with our amalan yg baik.

I belajar ngaji dari kecil sampai besar. Dah khatam.
          
          I have various guru ngaji.
          
          Fast forward few years system ngaji berubah. So got to relearn the hukum untuk perbaiki bacaan which I totally agree. Lagipun lama tak baca Quran semestinya dah tak sehebat dulu dan banyak kesilapan.
          
          Ironically, I studied with 3 guru from the same country within the last few years. And I'm tired of repeating Iqraq.
          
          The 1st one was fine. Dia perbetulkan bacaan. Belajar sampai naik Quran then have to find another. 2nd one said I read very well cuma kena perbaiki lagi sikit sebab tak tahu nama2 hukum. So dia suruh baca Iqraq balik. Well, sebab kita kenal tanda hukum tapi mana tahu itu hukum imala ke apa ke kan. So relearn balik. Dah complete.
          
          Then I was recommended by someone to contact for Quran reading. I contact lah. 
          
          U know what dia take kita like u don't know how to read so got to restart from awal after she tested me. Kena kenal huruf dan mahraj. Sebab dia kata bacaan banyak salah. I listen to her read. Sama je mcm kita baca. Dengan yg ngaji I baca. Malah lebih lemah. 
          
          And let me tell you all of them ada master dalam bab2 ugama dan mengaji ni. When I recalled those 3, I can only gives respect to the 1st one. Sebab dia mengajar ikhlas. Semuanya dia perbetulkan. Jika ada silap dia betulkan dan tegur. Sebab musabab semua diberitahu.
          
          This is my last attempt. After I completed this series and I still have the same treatment from other Ustaz bila nak naik Quran, I will give up my ngaji. At least I can answer to Allah swt..I have tried but all of them keep saying I'm wrong and got to restart. 
          
          Bila I boleh baca surah2 dlm Quran dan amalkan kalau semua asyik kata salah? I'm angry. Might as well I ngajii sendiri with my Quran pen and dengar ustaz2 baca kat utube.

Sometimes I care too much that people think I'm meddlesome or arrogant.
          
          But that same person will think that I lacked empathy once I retracted from their attention. 
          
          Its not my problem when u are to quick to judge people. At least I know I'm sincere.

It might seem cruel but once, I've beaten people pretending to be a ghost in a haunted house. However, not to the point of injury or bruises. A very light slap on their shoulder.
          
          Well, that too, happened only after the 2nd jump scare by the same person. And after repeated reminder to stay on their course.
          
          And when that happened, that guy will say, "Kak!! Tak sakit kak, tak sakit kak..hahahaha..Tapi jgnlah tampar badan kami. I'm just doing my job."
          
          Alahai..kesian pula. So I cakap, "Stay dekat zon u lah. Kenapa u ganggu zon org lain. Dah lah pocong tu tinggi2 kat depan..u kat belakang pun naik hantu. Jgn ikut lagi dik..Mati terkejut makcik kat sini. Hahahaha. Nak ikut juga takpe..tapi jgn pegang lah dik. Seriau badan." 

Teringat baca novel ni. 
          
          Ex gf lelaki ni curang then hidup dia tak bahagia. Lelaki ni pula kenangkan mereka pernah bersama dulu so sering membantu wanita ni. 
          
          Kebetulan dia pun jumpa kekasih baru. Taknlama kemudian mereka pun bernikah. Dia sayang sangat dgn wife baru dia tapi kerana terlalu baik hati dia selalu membantu ex gf dia.
          
          Sayangnya jodoh mereka di situ saja sebab suami wanita ni terkena penyakit AIDS sewaktu cuba membantu ex gf dia dari keganasan rumahtangga dan membunuh bf ex gf dia tanpa sengaja. Disebabkan itu dia menerima hukuman mati. Sewaktu isteri dia melawat dia dipenjara dia tak nak jumpa dan dia ceraikan isteri dia.
          
          Walaupun happy ending for his wife (mc), I'm not excited nor happy at all.

I saw this Malay drama snippet on tiktok where Rita Rudaini played kembar and anak dia ke anak saudara dia kena rogol dgn bapa tiri.
          
          Wuish! I have nightmare every single night. Teringat2 budak tu nangis but Rita lambat datang nak selidik sebab dia memasak di dapur. I don't see the action. I fast forward juga lepas dengar budak tu nangis dan nampak bapa tiri dia keluar bilik. I tak nak dengar apa dia cakap pun because I know I tak kuat nak hadap keadaan mcm ni.
          
          Ya, kalau I pun akan hilang kawalan juga. But instead of hitting his head with a hammer, I will hit both his kneecap kasi dia terus handicap. Torture him slowly. 
          
          Honestly, men have their preferences but why must it be kids..pasal paedophile. Sebab budak2 tak kuat nak lawan? Sebab tu makin ghairah ke? 
          
          I stress ni tak boleh tidur pasal ni. Baca majalah dan akhbar pasal ni pun, eventhough I'm not their parents, I feel their pain. Huh..
          
          I've long checked all negative vids, tiba2 drama ni boleh masuk FYP.

Most Singaporean Malay are very lucky.
          
          No matter how wealthy other country view us as, actually, we are not. Sekurang2nya, bab pelajaran, u have money u further ur studies. Takde duit, kerja dulu then upgrade. Tapi rata2 ramai juga yg malas. Ke sekolah just to socialise. It is not the end yet. They definitely will changed for the better. I've seen results. Banyak yg mcm ni. Ada yg early ada yg agak lewat.
          
          Mencari pekerjaan pun susah juga tapi sekurang2nya kalau tak memilih sangat, just to survive, In Shaa Allah, lepas juga.
          
          Masalahnya, yg salah gunakan credit card atau ambil loan. Susah nak bayar balik.
          
          PTPTN..teringat yg ni. Banyak pros and cons. Then after graduating..Life is hard there.
          
          Question is why some people tak tahu nak appreciate opportunity ni?