naimaderilus
I know it is talking about here and read some things on books,but the boymoms who act like they are attracted to their sons are just as bad as the girldads who sexualize their daughters, emotional incest is gross. Like,my I was at my bf dad side of the family and his cousins are boys and funny is at his mom side ,his cousins are all girls. But,I was at his paternaluncle house and he said that because I played with the boys and took care of them,I give boymom vibes and I took it as a compliment. And to deconstruct the boymom term because they are all put in the same basket. If I had kids,I will happy if I had a son or daughter, but yes I would appreciate having my son. BUT,there is a boymom vs a TOXIC boymom, I will be a boymom,but never a TOXIC boymom those a not the same.
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She will call him a fine ass son or her a sexy ass son. She will excuse his bad behavior saying he is just a boy and that boys will be boys instead of calling him out on his bs. See the difference? Not all boymoms are the same and there's two types of them and boymoms arent weird,its the TOXIC boymoms who are weird.
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She will compliments him by calling him handsome when he dress good,but she wont say " Boy,you are are the sexiest son I ever had,you are so fine.",like no. A toxic boymom will hate when her son has other women around him,will act jealous and possessive over her son to make get rid of the girls because they are too close to her son and no other girls can be besides her and her only because her son can only love her. She will be jealous and make herself compete with his future girlfriend, controlling his love life and friendship life with other women,she will claim her grown up son to be her prince because she is attracted to him and in love with him like she will grom him as her susbistute boyfriend or husband.
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But one thing is never I will put him on a pedestal like I am attracted to him and using him as my partner substitute to groom him like ewwwww. Yes I will call him when he is a kid by nurture,my baby or prince or lil man if he is a child, but once he will be an adult,I won't call him that, I will say my boy or big man. I will not be this toxic boymom claiming " My son is my prince, im so in love with my son and I have him as my man,no other man can compete with him." LIKE FUCKING EWWWWW! Yes,if my son dress good,I will call him handsome, nit saying he is so fine abd sexy,because it is so weird to me. See the difference? A boymom will call out her son on his bs,holding him accountable for his bad actions and never excuses his behavior, she won't hate the he has other girls around him beside her and she will never compete or be jealous of his future gf. She will be supportive, proud of him because of his achievements and overprotective like any parents would be about his friendship circle and who he will date,but will never control his life letting him learn about the mistakes and she wont groom her son to put him on a pedestal acting all attracted to him and claiming him as her susbistute boyfriend or husband.
