namjoonahsgirl

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ok so update me and him lowkey got in an argument because he didn’t text me back until like 10 pm talking bout he was busy like byee and im like dude let me know if you don’t want me texting you cause im not desperate that’s weird asf. and basically he was like my bad i just didn’t see it and i was like that’s not what i asked but ok. then he tried to call me weird and i told him like how?? i was just asking a question. and he gon tell me he obviously did want to talk to me like why you being sassy?? so after that i unfortunately apologized for coming off mean and shit and he did too but i was like i want to get it to know you and he said the same thing but yeah that’s it. we talked some more after that but i changed the subject.

_HEROWIN_

@namjoonahsgirl well, deciding to apologise in case you did seem a little harsh was a good choice but I feel this heavily depends on the person. So MANY people in the area I live are like this in texting, they can just suddenly stop midway and give no follow up as to why or that they were going to do something else and it's completely NORMAL to them. It's not even about a lack of interest and pointing it out makes it look like you're the one blowing it out of proportion. Chances are, the guy might fall under this category too. It shouldn't be so common now that you've mentioned it, even if you've put it aside, he should be more conscious of it when it's you. If it still occurs, well, it's highly likely he's not that interested. Side note: I'm probably the worst in this topic because I just can't be bothered with texting in general, I'd really rather prefer a call or in person to chat XD
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namjoonahsgirl

sorry if it doesn’t make sense i was typing fast asf
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namjoonahsgirl

this message may be offensive 
ok so update me and him lowkey got in an argument because he didn’t text me back until like 10 pm talking bout he was busy like byee and im like dude let me know if you don’t want me texting you cause im not desperate that’s weird asf. and basically he was like my bad i just didn’t see it and i was like that’s not what i asked but ok. then he tried to call me weird and i told him like how?? i was just asking a question. and he gon tell me he obviously did want to talk to me like why you being sassy?? so after that i unfortunately apologized for coming off mean and shit and he did too but i was like i want to get it to know you and he said the same thing but yeah that’s it. we talked some more after that but i changed the subject.

_HEROWIN_

@namjoonahsgirl well, deciding to apologise in case you did seem a little harsh was a good choice but I feel this heavily depends on the person. So MANY people in the area I live are like this in texting, they can just suddenly stop midway and give no follow up as to why or that they were going to do something else and it's completely NORMAL to them. It's not even about a lack of interest and pointing it out makes it look like you're the one blowing it out of proportion. Chances are, the guy might fall under this category too. It shouldn't be so common now that you've mentioned it, even if you've put it aside, he should be more conscious of it when it's you. If it still occurs, well, it's highly likely he's not that interested. Side note: I'm probably the worst in this topic because I just can't be bothered with texting in general, I'd really rather prefer a call or in person to chat XD
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namjoonahsgirl

sorry if it doesn’t make sense i was typing fast asf
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namjoonahsgirl

omg i like this boy but i feel so desperate because he won’t text me back. i deleted his number and i turned off my notifications for snap. like he’s super cute and he called me yesterday so i thought he liked me and we were chopping it up. i wish i didn’t feel like this but i just thought that we had hit it off. like i want to have a successful talking stage, ik yall are like girl you should want a relationship but like i want to experience it all yk? like i’ve never had a bf, never kissed anyone, never been on a date. i’m just tired of feeling lonely. like im a pretty girl ik that, but is it my personality or something or is the fact that im black??

namjoonahsgirl

@_HEROWIN_ thank you
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_HEROWIN_

@namjoonahsgirl First and foremost, NEVER let your mind wander into questioning if your ethnicity is what's putting you at a disadvantage here, especially for something like this. Because I can say it's you only reach that conclusion when you're surrounded by others who aren't the same and start comparing but that's misleading yourself, it is. I grew up as the minority in school for basically my whole life, was never really bullied or had thought I  compared myself but I did, because even subconsciously we're prone to it. And my personality, yeah, I question it everyday but it's more on how I am around people that is the concern because I discovered I tend to behave vastly different from how I am on my own than others. My sister pointed it out, I didn't even know. I won't assume but maybe that's what you're struggling with too in contemplating? I zero dating experience either but still tend to hear out my neighbbour who has her qualms about so many crushes, getting married in future etc. She sounds similar to you and the most I can say is, having someone to talk to is always what helps to get it through because left to wallow on it will only make you start going down a rabbit hole.
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namjoonahsgirl

also he looked at my snap story like he’s shítting ash for this.
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