ni19534

Food for thought
          	
          	1. Why do most love stories written end up with kids? Is having kids absolutely necessary & considered the ultimate sign of a fulfilling marriage? What about couples who are childless either by choice or due to health/fertility issues? Will their marriage not be considered successful?
          	There's nothing romantic about babies. They are a very big responsibility. 
          	
          	2. While there are many stories showing a woman marrying a man with a child, but why are there so few stories with the roles reversed? Even if there are, they'll finally reveal that the child wasn't even the female lead's biological child! Why? Just to portray the woman as a virgin? 
          	
          	3. Why is abortion considered a crime? Even now, abortion is portrayed as something only done by the villainous, vile, immoral, heartless women. Our government had passed the MTP act way back in 1970's. Something that I applaud them for. 
          	Also legally, an adult woman doesn't need her husband's 'permission' to get an abortion done. That's what the MTP act states. 
          	
          	Abortion is so vilified that even women with complicated pregnancies are shown to not opt for abortion. Even when their own lives are at stake. What even?
          	
          	4. Infertility issues are treated like a joke in fiction. No doctor can say that 'a woman has only 7% chance of getting pregnant'. And guess what, even with that 7% chance, the woman gets pregnant in the first attempt itself. Even healthy couples often don't conceive in the 1st attempt itself. [Y'all know which show I'm talking about]. Couples with infertility issues take 1-2 years on a minimum scale to get pregnant. And sometimes longer than that too. What are writers even thinking? 
          	
          	All these points I've spoken about, hold true not only for onscreen shows/films, but also for a lot of stories here on wattpad.

ni19534

@autumnesque I remember reading your IMM2 FF on Tellyupdates and loving it for choosing such an unconventional theme. I've nothing against people who want children (even I'd like to have one), but it's far too romanticized in our society. There are a far too many people who realize they have a lot of flaws within them, and don't want to see them in their children. Or others who think they are too irresponsible to take care of a child. Which is better than spoiling an innocent child's life.
          	  
          	  Bingo. I had seen exactly 2 shows on ITV where initially it was portrayed that the FL has a child from previous marriage/relationship. And then they even went ahead and showed the ML taking the child's permission before proposing to the FL, which ngl, I found really cute. But then the makers took a 180° turn later on by revealing that the child wasn't even the FL's own biological child and also that the FL had no illicit relation before and she was as pavitra as the Ganga river. I was like wth.
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ni19534

@_MysticLove_ Thank you. It's good to know that I'm not the only one having these thoughts.
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autumnesque

@ni19534 gahh, these were all points that I remember being so upset about when I wrote the IMMJ fics and hence why both the fics address one or the other of these points—one with the marriage ending with kids and the other with them leaving separately. I wish people took into account how real life in urban settings really operate before writing things, but unfortunately, that never happens.
          	  
          	  Also, the trope with a woman usually never having a child of her own? I recently read a story where I was happy, for a change, that a woman had a child of her own too. But towards the end, the kid just happened to not be hers, it broke my heart because it made little to zero sense and there was absolutely no reason to put that message forth in a book otherwise written so well.
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ni19534

Food for thought
          
          1. Why do most love stories written end up with kids? Is having kids absolutely necessary & considered the ultimate sign of a fulfilling marriage? What about couples who are childless either by choice or due to health/fertility issues? Will their marriage not be considered successful?
          There's nothing romantic about babies. They are a very big responsibility. 
          
          2. While there are many stories showing a woman marrying a man with a child, but why are there so few stories with the roles reversed? Even if there are, they'll finally reveal that the child wasn't even the female lead's biological child! Why? Just to portray the woman as a virgin? 
          
          3. Why is abortion considered a crime? Even now, abortion is portrayed as something only done by the villainous, vile, immoral, heartless women. Our government had passed the MTP act way back in 1970's. Something that I applaud them for. 
          Also legally, an adult woman doesn't need her husband's 'permission' to get an abortion done. That's what the MTP act states. 
          
          Abortion is so vilified that even women with complicated pregnancies are shown to not opt for abortion. Even when their own lives are at stake. What even?
          
          4. Infertility issues are treated like a joke in fiction. No doctor can say that 'a woman has only 7% chance of getting pregnant'. And guess what, even with that 7% chance, the woman gets pregnant in the first attempt itself. Even healthy couples often don't conceive in the 1st attempt itself. [Y'all know which show I'm talking about]. Couples with infertility issues take 1-2 years on a minimum scale to get pregnant. And sometimes longer than that too. What are writers even thinking? 
          
          All these points I've spoken about, hold true not only for onscreen shows/films, but also for a lot of stories here on wattpad.

ni19534

@autumnesque I remember reading your IMM2 FF on Tellyupdates and loving it for choosing such an unconventional theme. I've nothing against people who want children (even I'd like to have one), but it's far too romanticized in our society. There are a far too many people who realize they have a lot of flaws within them, and don't want to see them in their children. Or others who think they are too irresponsible to take care of a child. Which is better than spoiling an innocent child's life.
            
            Bingo. I had seen exactly 2 shows on ITV where initially it was portrayed that the FL has a child from previous marriage/relationship. And then they even went ahead and showed the ML taking the child's permission before proposing to the FL, which ngl, I found really cute. But then the makers took a 180° turn later on by revealing that the child wasn't even the FL's own biological child and also that the FL had no illicit relation before and she was as pavitra as the Ganga river. I was like wth.
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ni19534

@_MysticLove_ Thank you. It's good to know that I'm not the only one having these thoughts.
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autumnesque

@ni19534 gahh, these were all points that I remember being so upset about when I wrote the IMMJ fics and hence why both the fics address one or the other of these points—one with the marriage ending with kids and the other with them leaving separately. I wish people took into account how real life in urban settings really operate before writing things, but unfortunately, that never happens.
            
            Also, the trope with a woman usually never having a child of her own? I recently read a story where I was happy, for a change, that a woman had a child of her own too. But towards the end, the kid just happened to not be hers, it broke my heart because it made little to zero sense and there was absolutely no reason to put that message forth in a book otherwise written so well.
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