ni19534

I'm in absolute shock since I heard about the Varanasi case. I can't even fathom what the girl must be going through right now. 
          	And to think of it, this happened in Varanasi, which is considered a holy city. Ans that too, these events occurring right after few days after Kumbh Mela ended. Shows just how religious our people are.
          	And just look at the unity between Hindus and Muslims in this situation! They have forgotten all religious differences between them when it came to r@ping a girl. Wonderful.
          	But our govt and our citizens are more worried if Aurangzeb's tomb should be destroyed or not, and whether comedians should be hanged to death or not for their indecent jokes. 
          	And of course. Whenever a r@pe case comes up has it ever happened that we don't start victim blaming? Nah.
          	
          	I'm seriously done with this country. Initially, I had thought of staying back in my country and serving it (when many of my batchmates have moved abroad) but now I'm concerned about my own safety and mental sanity. I've observed that at least half of Indian men have no respect for the women.
          	
          	I grew up in the Middle East (not Saudi, just fyi). And it was so much more liberal and safe than India despite it being a monarchial Muslim country. I've seen local Muslim women roam there with their friends (and sometimes with their boy friends) as well till late in the night, and nobody bats an eye. Many women roam around in short skirts and crop tops with plunging necklines, and nobody bats an eye. Nobody judges you. The only people who ogle at you unfortunately will be mostly the Indians, Pakistanis, Bangladeshis, and hardly ever the local men. [Wahan par bhi apne log apni harkaton se baaz nahi aate]. 
          	But our Indians will be busy mocking the Middle East countries instead of looking at their own country's state. 
          	
          	

ni19534

@Rehana100 In terms of safety for women, and law and order, India is very behind. And not to forget, people here are very ill-mannered, uncouth & judgemental. I remember when I had gotten stuck in some unknown part of the city without a phone (it was an exam centre) and on top of that it was getting dark and there was a group of men loitering around that place, and I almost thought that today would be the day I'd get raped. It was a relief I got out of that place safely. If we narrate all our troubles to the men out there, their single question would be to question us as to what we were doing out till so late evening. 
          	  Most guys don't even need any invitation I believe. As long as there's a girl, they automatatically assume she's available or might be interested in them. 
          	  I remember a few guys from the neighbourhood who had befriended my brother only to get an opportunity to make a pass at me. And they continued messaging and calling me from different numbers (in spite of me blocking them) till I had had enough and threatened to file a complaint with the police. I remember crying myself to sleep reading their so-called 'romantic' messages, and subconsciously making a comparison with all those cliché Bollywood movies where the hero tries to chase the heroine in a similar manner (in spite of her saying no) and everybody considers it to be romantic. When my mom got to know of it, she wanted to confront those guys' parents but I stopped her from doing so. I knew that it would be of no use and their parents would in turn start blaming me for giving an invitatiin to their sons, when in reality, I had not even spoken a single word to them ever. 
          	  I'm not saying these things don't happen outside India, but at least there they won't sl*t-shame the women so much. 
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ni19534

@Laviest_cool Omg, same! Looking at the mentality of Indian men, I am dreading to even think that I might be married to one of them in the future. Actually since I'm done with my MBBS, my parents have started to instill the idea of marriage in my mind. And on their insistence, I did meet a few guys out there. And whoa. Not a single guy was worth wasting my time on. Their mentality which sucks big time, so much so that I didn't even want to meet them ever again. The ones I met were all misogynist, racist, classist, insecure & egoistic. They call themselves 'modern' and want an educated wife for themselves but want her to leave her career and stay at home, do the cooking and household chores and rear their kids for them. They blame women for getting raped, they blame women for making their husbands 'abusive' towards them, they blame women for increasing number of divorces. Women getting more educated is the main problem according to them. Yet the irony is that when they go around looking for wives, they want an educated woman only. And let me tell you, all of these men are educated (and some of them doctors even). 
          	  I don't want to judge 
          	  an entire gender and I believe there are genuinely good men out there, but very few in number and unfortunately, not within my circle. People say that older people have more backward mindset, but my father is a 10 times more liberal than these so called youngsters. 
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ni19534

@Purbareads Yup. During internship few girls got married. 
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Me_Amy_

Hey, there!! 
          Been following you and your work since telly updates days (bound to you was really a great work of yours to say the least). May I know if you are on Instagram?

ni19534

@Me_Amy_ Yeah, as of now, I'm only on wattpad and quotev.
            .
            That's sweet of you to say that. Thank you.
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ni19534

@Me_Amy_ Hi. No, I am not on Instagram or any other social platforms.
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Me_Amy_

@ni19534 only Wattpad? ಥ⁠‿⁠ಥ
            Btw genuinely love your writing! 
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UnzaAsim

Hi Nia. Nia you asked for a book (Peer-e-kamil in english),did you get it?

UnzaAsim

Yes, on Amazon.com
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ni19534

@UnzaAsim But do these books have english translations?
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ni19534

@UnzaAsim Even I love such types of books only with strong female reads. I found Peer-e-kamil's female lead on the other hand, very confused and not very strong. And also I didn't like how they made marriage into a joke and game in that story.
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ni19534

I'm in absolute shock since I heard about the Varanasi case. I can't even fathom what the girl must be going through right now. 
          And to think of it, this happened in Varanasi, which is considered a holy city. Ans that too, these events occurring right after few days after Kumbh Mela ended. Shows just how religious our people are.
          And just look at the unity between Hindus and Muslims in this situation! They have forgotten all religious differences between them when it came to r@ping a girl. Wonderful.
          But our govt and our citizens are more worried if Aurangzeb's tomb should be destroyed or not, and whether comedians should be hanged to death or not for their indecent jokes. 
          And of course. Whenever a r@pe case comes up has it ever happened that we don't start victim blaming? Nah.
          
          I'm seriously done with this country. Initially, I had thought of staying back in my country and serving it (when many of my batchmates have moved abroad) but now I'm concerned about my own safety and mental sanity. I've observed that at least half of Indian men have no respect for the women.
          
          I grew up in the Middle East (not Saudi, just fyi). And it was so much more liberal and safe than India despite it being a monarchial Muslim country. I've seen local Muslim women roam there with their friends (and sometimes with their boy friends) as well till late in the night, and nobody bats an eye. Many women roam around in short skirts and crop tops with plunging necklines, and nobody bats an eye. Nobody judges you. The only people who ogle at you unfortunately will be mostly the Indians, Pakistanis, Bangladeshis, and hardly ever the local men. [Wahan par bhi apne log apni harkaton se baaz nahi aate]. 
          But our Indians will be busy mocking the Middle East countries instead of looking at their own country's state. 
          
          

ni19534

@Rehana100 In terms of safety for women, and law and order, India is very behind. And not to forget, people here are very ill-mannered, uncouth & judgemental. I remember when I had gotten stuck in some unknown part of the city without a phone (it was an exam centre) and on top of that it was getting dark and there was a group of men loitering around that place, and I almost thought that today would be the day I'd get raped. It was a relief I got out of that place safely. If we narrate all our troubles to the men out there, their single question would be to question us as to what we were doing out till so late evening. 
            Most guys don't even need any invitation I believe. As long as there's a girl, they automatatically assume she's available or might be interested in them. 
            I remember a few guys from the neighbourhood who had befriended my brother only to get an opportunity to make a pass at me. And they continued messaging and calling me from different numbers (in spite of me blocking them) till I had had enough and threatened to file a complaint with the police. I remember crying myself to sleep reading their so-called 'romantic' messages, and subconsciously making a comparison with all those cliché Bollywood movies where the hero tries to chase the heroine in a similar manner (in spite of her saying no) and everybody considers it to be romantic. When my mom got to know of it, she wanted to confront those guys' parents but I stopped her from doing so. I knew that it would be of no use and their parents would in turn start blaming me for giving an invitatiin to their sons, when in reality, I had not even spoken a single word to them ever. 
            I'm not saying these things don't happen outside India, but at least there they won't sl*t-shame the women so much. 
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ni19534

@Laviest_cool Omg, same! Looking at the mentality of Indian men, I am dreading to even think that I might be married to one of them in the future. Actually since I'm done with my MBBS, my parents have started to instill the idea of marriage in my mind. And on their insistence, I did meet a few guys out there. And whoa. Not a single guy was worth wasting my time on. Their mentality which sucks big time, so much so that I didn't even want to meet them ever again. The ones I met were all misogynist, racist, classist, insecure & egoistic. They call themselves 'modern' and want an educated wife for themselves but want her to leave her career and stay at home, do the cooking and household chores and rear their kids for them. They blame women for getting raped, they blame women for making their husbands 'abusive' towards them, they blame women for increasing number of divorces. Women getting more educated is the main problem according to them. Yet the irony is that when they go around looking for wives, they want an educated woman only. And let me tell you, all of these men are educated (and some of them doctors even). 
            I don't want to judge 
            an entire gender and I believe there are genuinely good men out there, but very few in number and unfortunately, not within my circle. People say that older people have more backward mindset, but my father is a 10 times more liberal than these so called youngsters. 
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ni19534

@Purbareads Yup. During internship few girls got married. 
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Laviest_cool

Nia... Needed help! Could you please? 

Laviest_cool

@ni19534 Thank you so much, Nia. After going through your reply, I’ve been re-reading the entire book, and I realize now that I did start it a bit recklessly. I had the whole plot structured, but when it came to the scenes, I just went with the flow—and that’s where things went wrong. There was a lack of proper buildup and expectation. So, I’ve decided to edit the entire work before moving on to write the next chapter.
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ni19534

@Laviest_cool What I'm trying to say is giving that personal/emotional touch to your characters (especially main characters) is important. Only then will the readers will be able to feel attached to them. You need to give snippets about their thoughts, motivations, desires, fears, etc throughout the story (and more in the beginning). Personally I feel if you work on this and adding more suspense and pace in addition to cutting down descriptions, it will be an amazing read.
            
            I want to tell you something. Before I start working on a story, I decide the start, the main plot twists/events and the ending before hands itself. I even play out the major dialogues and major filler scenes in my mind and decide the various characters and their relations with each other as well. And then, I keep filling up the other things in between as I keep writing. Of course, as the story moves ahead, some changes are also made here and there. But the major things remain the same. I've seen that when I don't preplan everything beforehands, I cannot complete the story. I've started so many stories previously based upon some concept I liked, but could not move ahead because of the lack of a proper plan. That's something I learnt the hard way and I stopped starting new stories unless I have that preplan. This is how I function, though, as a writer, and other writers may not face such a thing. 
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ni19534

@Laviest_cool Lack of other worthwhile characters who contribute to the story is another drawback. 
            When you mentioned about Maya's father and sister, that was a good opportunity to describe about her relation and feelings regarding them.
            For eg, when she realizes the potential danger that her family faces from Dhruv, she gets reminded of how she lost her mother and she doesn't want history to repeat itself. Her father and her sister mean the world to her, and she'd even lay down her life for them or even take someone else's life for them.
            Maybe, her father's super proud of her achievements, or maybe he considers her a disappointment to the family. Or even worse, he considers her the reason that his wife died.
            Her sister maybe looks upto her a role model, or maybe she's a spoilt brat who doesn't give two cents about her.
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ni19534

The last part of 'Yes Boss!' will be updated by tomorrow. Stay tuned. 

ni19534

@ni19534 Unfortunately, 'To the Moon and Back' is no longer available on Wattpad. You can read it on Quotev for free under the same ID. 
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Riddz1111

@ni19534 
            After long time I came to Wattpad
            Just to read your Moon and back
            
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ni19534

Posted the next part of 'Fatal Attraction' on Quotev.

ni19534

@hetviahir99 You can go on Quotev and find my books under the same id - ni19534.
            
            Wattpad's new policy doesn't allow me to share the link to another app/website anymore.
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hetviahir99

@ni19534 where can i get the link for the update as it’s not posted here
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ni19534

Posted the next part of 'Breaking Free' on Quotev.

ni19534

@ni19534 Huh. Looks like wattpad has made some new updates due to which links from other apps or websites cannot be posted in the conversation. That's why I had been trying to post the link of my Quotev account, but the conversation would not be posted on my profile. 
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