@xMiss-Mia0x Exactly. I absolutely despise when men get defensive and try to question, negotiate, or challenge me. I'm not going to interact with a petulant child who doesn’t respect my boundaries. Any ounce of respect I could've had just disappears in an instant the second they do that. I'm not playing, I'm very decisive. No means no, and that's final. The second this happens, I just block/ignore them. I do not entertain this behavior. They can scheme and accuse me of being unreasonable all they want, but I will not fall for these manipulative shame tactics. I have a happy and busy life with my family and my boyfriend, and I don't have time for this. Likewise, you should do the same.
Also, it’s important that you understand what that behavior they’re displaying is. All those small offenses, while they seem insignificant, pill on and they are designed to wear you down and normalize their behavior. I’m not exaggerating. A lot of men are covert predators and abusers and they will use any excuse in the book, including the “joke” or “harmless” or “you’re a prude/overreacting” excuse to confuse and shame you for being rightfully alarmed. Do not be ashamed for being uncomfortable, and do fall for any bargaining/pressure. Millions of years of evolution and you have these body responses for a reason, they are designed to protect you. The moment you feel uncomfortable or that something is wrong, listen to your body because it is valid to say no. Your safety is #1 priority, and you don’t need to explain yourself to them.