renafrommalabami

pls read my previous announcement bc idfk what to do with this guy and i needs help lmao

Heronstairs24

ohh my bestie and i always fall for the same person coz we are just too damn similar. anyway what we do is talk it out, if we'd be okay with each other going for the person coz BRO NEVER lose good friendships (keyword being good) over a relationship (trust me you'll regret it if you do.) and figure it for sure first if that person likes one of you or not before confessing? coz i don't trust other people.. they just get too excited shipping people that they don't see it objectively in my opinion. maybe jokingly flirt or something and see his reaction? or ask ur friends to tease the info out of him without being obvious..
          
          IDK TAKE MY ADVICE AT UR OWN RISK OKAY IM NOT AN EXPERT AT THIS. I REPEAT. NOT AN EXPERT. 

renafrommalabami

random a$$ teaspill sesh ab my life rn...
          
          so there's this guy at my church (we can call him Harrison) who's kinda cute in an unassuming sorta way. the basis of our friendship is our mutual love for old disney channel movies/shows, sharing memes + random tiktoks, and serving at said church. we have a very platonic relationship dynamic... or at least, so i thought.
          
          Harrison and I only ever communicate through memes and random small talk whenever we run into each other. I know hardly anything about him (that he knows of lol), but I'm pretty much an open book. I bring out the silly side of him, whereas usually he is quite reserved. And we're always encouraging each other. We've never hung out or even been alone together for longer than like 5 minutes, and usually, we're just being goofy the entire time. He's a friend, and I never thought he had any further interest in me. Why? Well, there are a few reasons:
          
          1) If Harrison is in the market for a relationship, he's got plenty of prospects to choose from. Smarter, more experienced, and far prettier prospects. I'm not what you'd consider "conventionally attractive" (aka, I have the ugly), and I'm pretty sure I'm not his type.
          
          2) Harrison hasn't given me any reason to believe he's even remotely interested in me. We only talk like maybe 2-3 times a week or not at all. He's never gone out of his way to talk to me until recently. But according to my brothers, Harrison acts like he has the biggest crush whenever we're together. His face gets red, he gets all giddy, and turns into a total simp. I really never noticed it.
          
          
          (Read 1st reply for the rest)

Larry_vibez

@renafrommalabami In terms of experience, how you see the idea of relationships and feelings, and being in a platonic(?) friendship with a guy that you have some feelings for, I'm pretty much in the same boat as you lol.
            
            The obvious thing to do is just confess because life is too short to let these opportunities slip away, but that's so much easier said than done, and I completely understand if you have struggles with that, bc ME MYSELF IS TOO SCARED TO CONFESS ANYTHING ABOUT CRUSHES EVEN TO MY CLOSEST FRIENDS- (to be fair I'm still in high school, and it's way more risky since rumors and gossip spread like wild fire so it's better to just lay low) I'm assuming you are out of school rn? So it might be easier for you? or not Idk
            But yeah, if I was in your situation, I might wait it out and continue with this friendship as it was and see how it goes (if you're patient), OR a more faster progress where I go out of my way to invite him to hang out  and stuff and basically test out the waters more. 
            And about your friend... I have no idea about what advice to give for that situation bc I've never experienced anything like that before.
            
            IDK IM PROBS NOT MUCH HELP TO YOU BUT I TRIED
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renafrommalabami

3) People "suspect" that Harrison likes me, Although I know for a fact that he's talking to other girls and leading them to believe that he "likes" them, too. Which really bugs me bc A) one of those girls is my friend and B) I know she likes him quite a bit. It makes me feel bad. I don't wanna invest myself into this anyway if all he is doing is stringing me along and seeking attention.
            
            Ughhhhaodiahnskaw this is so frustrating. Im not used to these feelings. I'm almost 19, and I've never even been on a date or hung out with a guy alone. Never kissed or held hands with anyone. I'm so fckn inexperienced and idk what to do. I used to think that no guys my age are worth my time, and tbh I'm still kind of against the idea of me being in a relationship rn... but on the other hand I really like the idea of being with Harrison and getting to know him better. But I don't wanna get my hopes up for something that isn't meant to be. And I don't  me or my friend getting hurt. 
            
            Idk what to do :/ HELP
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renafrommalabami

Quick question... I'm back on the app for the first time in like a year. How can I turn my reading mode from light to dark? My app itself is already in dark mode, but the book pages are white, and I can't find a way to change it :/

renafrommalabami

@xDemonBeautyx I did lmao thanks again
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xDemonBeautyx

@renafrommalabami || Did you end up finding it lmao x
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renafrommalabami

I know it's been literally only a few hours since I returned, but I just need some way to vent. I'm tired of feeling like a burden to those around me. I'm tired of being treated as the runt of the litter. I'm tired of depending on other people to take me places and getting all kinds of passive resentment from them because of it. It hurts. I just wanna hermit and never need anyone again because A) they'll only let me down or B) they'll make me feel like sh!t about it like always. I mean, come on, at least wait until I am completely out of earshot before talking about how much you hate having to drag me around. Ugh.

Larry_vibez

@renafrommalabami *meditating music* crying lets the emotion trapped inside of you flow out...
            Anyways Idk where that came from but ilysm too <333333 and thank youuuu, You are now bambi to me (if you don't mind?)
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renafrommalabami

@Larry_vibez got me over here cryin like a big ole baby, ilysm thank you <333 also bambi is a wonderful nickname btw :)
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Larry_vibez

@renafrommalabami ALSO WELCOME BACK I MISSED YOU BAMBI (sorry a random nickname just slipped out) *sending hearts through screen*
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renafrommalabami

so... it's been a minute. a hot minute at that. I was reading through old notes today and oh my gsos8whsk... my writing used to be sooo bad but now I remember how much I loved it and lowkey wanna venture back into. There's a fanfic I had started writing right before my hiatus that I'd love to share with you all. I highly doubt any of you beautiful souls still remember me, but I greatly appreciate the kind messages you have left in my absence   How are you my lovelies? I won't be checking my dms bc 1) im logged in via incognito mode and 2) if my mom found the wattpad app on my phone, she would quite literally combust. So conversation is more than welcome here!! Ask me questions, give me updates, lemme know how you've been :)
          
          Alsooooo, SO MUCH has happened in the 1D/solo Fandoms since I left I can't even begin to dive into the craziness which has ensued these past months. Feel free to dish below
          
          Big love to all of you!! xx

renafrommalabami

Also I'm so sorry to anyone I have worried. Honestly my life has been ridiculously hectic and I'm coming out the other side of what was a really bad mental health season. I'll try downloading the app later to check my dms and hopefully ease any concern for those who still care <3
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AllPayneNoLiam25

Hey love, are you doing okay? 

renafrommalabami

@AllPayneNoLiam25 sleep paralysis luke is bae
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AllPayneNoLiam25

@renafrommalabami thank you! i've not known what to change it to for ages so it's just stayed as sleep paralysis demon Luke Hemmings
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renafrommalabami

@AllPayneNoLiam25 I'm so sorry for your loss :( </3 I'm glad you're doing better now tho! Also I'm LIVING for your pfp hahaha
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just_a_lazy_reader

i miss you 
          i miss you 
          i miss you

renafrommalabami

@just_a_lazy_reader missed u too <3 That's awesome! Wow, final year?? Time goes by so fasttt!
            
            I'm okay! Still a lot going on in my life but I am much happier than I had been last year :)
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just_a_lazy_reader

@renafrommalabami | oh my god rena!! you're back! i missed you so much. i am doing good luv, in my final semester of university now. 
            what about you babe? how are you? 
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renafrommalabami

@just_a_lazy_reader I'm here now  <3 How are you doing babes?
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